AIBU to feel miffed that SIL refused Easter eggs?!

[ShabbyChic999]

In the scheme of things this is not a major problem but I'm curious to know what you ladies think.....!!!
I got lovely unicorn Thorntons eggs for DH little nieces but at the last minute my in laws went away for Easter so we hadn't dropped the eggs to them. We tried to make an arrangement to drop over since they got back but when i mentioned we had eggs for the girls my SIL said to keep them ourselves and that they had enough chocolate. Again I know it's not a major deal, I just felt a bit flat as was excited to give them and see their faces. I know kids have all eaten too much chocolate at this stage but I just think now they'll think we didn't get them any egg! Curious to know if you think she's being too fussy or has a point?

If that’s all you have to worry about I think you are doing OK

I'd just turn up at theirs with them anyway - you'll get to see your nieces be delighted with their unicorn eggs. If they're only young Easter is probably a distant memory for them already so more chocolate will be very well received!

Rather stunned at how many people think your DIL was rude. Without knowing her tone etc, the conversation either side of the statement and how your relationship usually plays out that’s pretty impossible to determine with the scant information you’ve provided, that, with respect, paints you as a victim of sorts. My advice is put your big girls pants on, and find some more important things to worry about.

Why do people come out with this? Why do you assume she had nothing else to worry about?

Often it's when our lives are shit and full of worry, that the small things like a gift bring rebuffed, hurt disproportionately.

ETA and here's another one
My advice is put your big girls pants on, and find some more important things to worry about.

Unless you know that the person's life is a bed of roses, why come out with this? And why wish stress and worry on someone you don't know?

Came here because I was starting to think I was the SIL 🙈 until I remembered I'm too averse to saying anything to my family about the incessant egg and gift buying in case it causes them to speak badly of me (and it wasn't Thorntons eggs!)

I can see where your SIL is coming from OP, in the nicest possible way. My kids ended up with a LOT of chocolate this Easter without DH or I even buying them any, between both sets of grandparents and my DGM. My SIL without warning started buying them eggs last year, which left me stuck as by the time the eggs arrived at ours Easter was long gone and I hadn't got anything for hers. Had to buy something else to send. Same again this year, but I was made aware by my DM shortly before Easter so was able to get something arranged.

Personally I don't like buying for buying's sake, and that goes for Christmas too. DH is the same, and fortunately his family are too. I enjoy giving thoughtful gifts, and made an agreement with my DB and SIL a few years ago to only buy the kids Christmas presents but even with that, they deviate from the requested presents and give extra whereas I don't and then worry that I'm being perceived as tight (despite buying exactly what was asked for).

I don't know how to broach the egg subject though without coming across as rude, especially as my DB wasn't overly impressed with the 'kids only' Christmas gifts a few years back when I had one child and he had none, and now I have 2 and he has 1. He's made comments about me doing better out of that arrangement than him (he means in terms of the spending on the gifts)...so if I were to try to stop the eggs now, I know he'll perceive it as being worse off as 'he' wasn't on the receiving end of as many eggs during the period as 'I' was.

Christ that sounds mental when I write it down 😂

Families...

You mentioned your in laws were away over Easter do you think she refused the eggs as a way to avoid an unnecessary visit ? When we were children we were very excited to receive eggs and I enjoy giving them but these days children are very fortunate with clothes toys treats and days out perhaps as another poster suggested the Mum considers Easter eggs another unnecessary extra .

Did they give your kids easter eggs? If not don’t bother again. It’s so rude

I'll quite happily have them and will even send you a picture of my facial expression as I've never had a unicorn egg before! 🙂

But the parent does get to decide when the kids actually eat the eggs. As I said in my earlier post, the parent can always choose to put them to one side and bring them out some other time, if there's been too much chocolate consumed recently.

Unless you mean it's for the parent to decide whether their child has Easter eggs/chocolate at all, but it makes me kind of sad to think of them banning it outright, allergies/intolerances aside.

Oh come on. She polietly turned down an easter egg.