AIBU / Ridiculous re putting extra mileage on my car

[MileageWoes]

DH works from home, I work full time in the office. He is having major car trouble and will be without a car for the next few weeks. Obviously he doesn't need a car for work but he has a hobby that he travels to so is using my car morning and evening to do this. It's a 40 mile round trip, twice a day so means that he's putting over 500 miles extra on my car every week! I think he should cut back to once a day until he gets his own car back and he thinks I am being very unreasonable as it will only be for 3/4 weeks.

I WILL NOT BE DISCLOSING WHAT THE HOBBY IS! (I don't want to out myself and it's really really not relevant to my question)

But the OP's husband is doing twice your mileage for his hobby.

Equivalent of 26,000 miles pa.

Don't you think that's a lot for a hobby?

Yeah, I thought that. Or as another poster suggested, cold water swimming. Or bog snorkelling? Canal vaulting? Extreme cheese-rolling? I'm far more invested in this arcane "hobby" than dreary old car mileage arguments.

I'd guess he owns a horse that is kept away from their house at a day livery yard whare he has to tend to the horse am and pm

Not
A
Horse

I know you dont want people to speculate about his hobby, but I have concluded as its early mornings and late evenings, its either fishing or dogging :)

I don't care what his hobby is, but it's ridiculous to have the lifestyle of a single man when he has a partner and children. I'd possibly cap his use of your car at 2 weeks and tell him that after that, he's on his own.

Very few people do cold water swimming twice in one day.

i do know people who do it pretty much every day but they mostly live very very close to a river.

OK,if its not a horse that needs twice daily care or a human or other animal that rely on him.
Its not life and death he goes to said hobby,I should just call it a draw on the hobby while car is out of action

Stupid bloody self centred carry on. Especially with fuel the price it is and the environmental impact of something completely non essential. I'd tell him to lay off for a bit.

Horses, he can't not go.

Rowing, he can suck up missing one each day.

What takes a month to repair?

He would be driving his own car anyway, people are allowed to have hobbies and travel to things they want to you know!!

Noooo. Look at the facts.

needs a car.
drives to a specific place
could be outing if revealed

It’s dogging innit!

A round of golf is probably a minimum of 2.5 to 3 hours. That twice a day plus 2 round trips of 40 miles each.

That's a total of 7 - 8 hours per day

Even rowing though, surely it’s be more reasonable and cost effective to buy a concept 2 and do one row erg at home and one on water row. I can’t see why you’d need to do two water sessions.

o/p has said it’s not a competitive hobby anyway so why is he training like an Olympian if he’s not competing. Missing a few weeks or sessions isn’t going to stop his selection for the world championships or the oxbridge boat race.

i honestly can’t think of any “hobby” which would necessitate 2x a day 5 days a week, and not weekends which is more normal for “hobbies”. It’s not horses and not competitive sport 🤷‍♀️

that’s why I don’t think o/p is BU, because that amount of time, money and effort on a hobby is unreasonable. The car mileage is irrelevant.

without knowing the what the hobby is and why it needs that level of time and commitment it’s impossible to know who is BU.

And ? 500 mikes is nothing I do that in one week . It’s your husband not a friend or someone else

Yeah. Men, eh? I’d definitely pull him up on that

It’s for a few weeks … not forever

I could believe it… if it wasn’t twice a day! You’d be knackered!

I suspect he may have a horse that needs care twice a day 🤔

I mean op ruled that out a while ago. I guess she could be lying?!

Horses

I’m wouldn’t do it.

I think this is tricky, my husband has an aging car and we reckon (it's on 120 000 miles) it's maybe got another 5 or 10 thousand miles in it. If I "used up" 2000 sooner then we'd need a new one sooner. Having said that, it's our joint money that'd pay for it, and legally as we are married it all belongs to both of us - we just run our family finances that way. So for me, it's more a chat of "well we will have to buy me a new car sooner if we add the miles on - have we agreed a budget for that and saved the money/do we have a plan". If his view is "well thats your problem/you need to have your own money for that" then I can see that issue and you're fair to say no. If you combine savings and both your finances go to both your cars - then it isn't a problem.

😂

Yep.
5 times I was at the yard yesterday... luckily its only 5 mins away.