AIBU to be astounded at people’s shamelessness?

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On a train home from work. Girl came and sat next to me (looked around 18-22) started scrolling TikTok at mid-volume. I politely asked “excuse me do you have any headphones?” She said she didn’t so I asked if she would turn the volume down so we didn’t all have to listen.

That lasted around 30 seconds before she started again. After another 5-10 minutes I asked again, “excuse me could you turn the volume down so we don’t all have to hear it”, she just looked at me blankly, made a quick phone call then carried on scrolling at an even louder volume. Loads of other people in the carriage but no one said anything. I didn’t bother again as it was now clear what the outcome would be.

How have we got to the point where someone can have their antisocial behaviour pointed out to them twice, but just carry on regardless? When did people become so brazen?

PS I don’t want to hear “just bring your own headphones” because that doesn’t address the complete lack of respect for other people.

wow that’s dramatic

It is rude

why does everyone else want to hear your call and private information

keep it brief or text

Yes I think so

Parents dont raise kids into adults anymore, some parents think technology and screens do the job for them.
And this is the results.

Dramatic? In what way?

What about the adults who are too old to have been raised by technology? Whose fault is it then?

Second post nailed it

Its called "being honest"

Saw a wonderful suggestion on Threads about this yesterday.

Start farting.

I’m gutted for you that no one joined in

I’m still bemused about what is dramatic about stating it’s noise pollution and antisocial behaviour - please “be honest” and tell me.

Sorry @ByQuaintAzureWasp, thought I was replying to the other poster!

I’ve thought of carrying an indelible ink pen and brushing against them as I pass - petty but 🤷‍♀️

It's entirely true.

Happens all the time. I was in a hospital waiting room today - very quiet, many people w cancer (not me thankfully) and some woman w phone on full blast.

I have to say it’s ALWAYS young women who plonk themselves in the first available seats on the bus - the disabled/priority ones.
Someone will probably now tell me that they have hidden disabilities. All of them.
Then I have to wonder why I have literally never seen any young man doing this.

And I use buses a lot.

I suspect the OP would have said exactly the same about a man twattishly playing TikTok videos - the only difference would be that she wouldn't risk asking him to turn them down.

There should be a fine for that sort of behaviour.

Entirely true! I have actually asked men a few times, only the ones that don’t look too scary which is a sad state of affairs in itself.

That’s terrible. I’d hope though that if she was asked to turn it down she would have.

That’s the real issue I posted about- not the noise itself but the refusal to stop after being asked to turn it down.

People had to make a deliberate choice to carry around boom boxes though. Not so with phones - they're everywhere and everyone has one.

Normal conversation from pensioners or otherwise isn't the same - there is a distinct acoustically intrusive quality to electronic noise and general media broadcasting that isn't present in the human voice.

YABU to act like rude people who don’t care about others are a new thing that hasn’t always been the case.

New level of obnoxious behaviour unlocked in the supermarket today. Couple with several children. One child aged about 2 in the trolley with what was some sort of karaoke microphone blasting out Disney tunes that she could also sing into I think. It was an awful noise which I could hear 3 aisles away. I kept trying to move on so they weren't close to me all the way around.

That wasn’t what I asked and I didn’t say it was a new thing.

What was new to me personally was someone not responding after being asked twice, in public, to be more considerate - that’s a new low.

I was about to say much the same….. I was trying to have a nice quiet breakfast in a cafe. There was one other customer- a woman of about 70. She had a 45 minute FaceTime call on full volume! When I complained to her she said it was ok because it was a special occasion because her son had just arrived in Australia. Well, strangely, having a peaceful breakfast in a cafe was supposed to be a special occasion for me.