AIBU to speak out after another parent assaulted my son?

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So really long story I’m summarising as best I can.

My son was assaulted in January by another parent. We were at a birthday gathering. I’ve no idea what possessed her to touch him but I didn’t realise how bad it was until the following day. I made contact with the mother who’d done it to discuss it and she basically cut me off and said “I’m the adult…!” At this point I contacted the parent on the child whose party it was and explained what had happened. I accept I was upset during that call. However now they’re casting me as the villain basically encouraging their kids to bully mine and they’re not speaking to me which I couldn’t be less bothered about but the lies they’re spreading are grating me. I always said I wouldn’t ruin another parent’s reputation to defend my own but I am getting a bit exhausted with it all…!

I have reported to police but they’ve done very little At this point.

That sounds like a tough situation - did any of the other parents see what happened? What were you hoping for when you called the party host?

What were you hoping the party host would do? I’m a bit puzzled why would you tell them?

I wasn’t hoping they would do anything but I’d rather they heard it from me than on the grapevine then ask why I didn’t tell them

Yanbu, I'd have sung like a canary and spoken out about it straight away, sod her reputation, if she doesn't want people to know the sort of person she really is she shouldn't have done it in the first place.

What did she do to your child? I’m not sure what the party host could do if you already knew how to contact the parent.
If they are encouraging their children to bully yours in school then I’d speak to school staff.

What did the assault consist of and was it witnessed by anyone? I’m assuming the other mother has downplayed it?

What did she do? Why didn’t you find out what had happened until the next day? It all sounds very dramatic.

Every single adult attending the party AND the police have essentially dismissed outright this assault? And you are being painted as the “villain”

Interesting

No idea as I was focused on my kid being upset but I believe what I saw and I’ve seen the X-rays and scans that show inflammation and damage, I told party just so they heard it from me rather than on the grapevine as if it happened at something I’d hosted if want to know.

What do you mean by assault? It’s hard to comment without knowing exactly what happened.

How old are the children? What kind of assault? What did the mother do your child?

You were also at the party but didn’t witness the attack? How old is your son?

How old is your child? What were the circumstances leading to the incident?
What was the assault?
What was said at the time?

More info needed.

This was severe enough to need a hospital visit? X-ray AND a scan?

What do you mean the police have 'done very little'?

What did they say they would do and what exactly have they done? Did they take a statement from you, did they say they would be in touch to speak with your child, what?

assaulted how? I ask because it’s unusual not to include that and if it’s a case of your child was held back off another child or grabbed to stop them from hurtinh themselves that’s very different to punching them in the face.

How old is your child?

How old is your son and what exactly happened?

Very much downplayed it. As we were at an animal park I don’t know who else saw it. Police are acting just slowly - they’re collecting CCTV and statements from that staff which takes time. My son has had scans and X-rays. I knew what had happened but my son did t tell us how bad the pain was until the next day. Which was when we took him to the walk in

Define “assault”, op? It’s hard to imagine a woman actually assaulting a young kid at a birthday party, in the usual sense of the word.
Did she try to break up an altercation between your child and another one?
How upset were you when speaking to the party host? You seem to have over reacted in a very major way.

sorry - I was typing whilst you posted this. That’s not ok and I’m sorry this happened.

So the assault was bad enough for your child to need X-rays and scans? But the police aren’t interested? What was the assault exactly and who witnessed it?

Yes. The following day he was in a lot of pain. They did two X-rays to check for fractures/breaks and then sent him for a scan to check for ligament damage.

What actually happened?

Is this parent known to have a short fuse and be angry and violent?

I wonder whether it’s a case of the other mums being afraid of retaliation so are keeping quiet and hoping it will blow over?

Lots of people are basically cowards so won’t want to get involved. At least you now know they’re unreliable and not your friends.

Yes, this vital piece of information seems missing from the post and follow ups.