AIBU to speak out after another parent assaulted my son?

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So really long story I’m summarising as best I can.

My son was assaulted in January by another parent. We were at a birthday gathering. I’ve no idea what possessed her to touch him but I didn’t realise how bad it was until the following day. I made contact with the mother who’d done it to discuss it and she basically cut me off and said “I’m the adult…!” At this point I contacted the parent on the child whose party it was and explained what had happened. I accept I was upset during that call. However now they’re casting me as the villain basically encouraging their kids to bully mine and they’re not speaking to me which I couldn’t be less bothered about but the lies they’re spreading are grating me. I always said I wouldn’t ruin another parent’s reputation to defend my own but I am getting a bit exhausted with it all…!

I have reported to police but they’ve done very little At this point.

A wrist scan beyond an xray is serious and indicates the potential of serious injury. I would push the police and also send the hospital reports the both the school and social services due to the severity you have described - definitely not the other parents! It’s a matter beyond their opinion .

Yes we’ve chased up. They’ve been in touch today as apparently he’s been on nights and then sat days and leave. Which I get that he’s entitled to and needs but I wish someone had communicated that to us. Hopefully we’ll get somewhere now

Yes I think that’s probably the course of action. Was just feeling overwhelmed by a lot when I posted. Thank you

They took statements from myself and a staff member they tracked down. They then phoned with an update that they had asked for CCTV to be saved and the would collect it but there have been lots of irregular shifts with the officer, lots of rest days and leave in between (only told this today)

If a solicitor is involved surely they have instructed you to absolutely NOT get involved with communication to other parents (unless they are useless or you actually haven’t) you are tampering with a witness!!!

I want her kept away from my child. If that means legal intervention then so be it. We contacted a solicitor (as I said a friend of a friend) after SS turned up as I was unsure what would happen and wanted to get ahead. Since we’ve used them for support just to be clear on what we’ve been told. I don’t want a prosecution but I don’t want her in the vicinity of my child. I also think such an incident is useful on file as if she’s comfortable hurting my child what happens in her own home?

GP’s will always request you report inline with them -
this is likely to social services additionally so the delay is very unusual. Call and check with your GP

I think keeping her away from your child is reasonable. But I would just… keep your child away from her.

Unless of course she’s stalking him. Which I’m sure isn’t the case.

If a suspected crime is committed then the police force in the area in which that alleged crime took place will deal with it. So if it was reported by someone in their home town, those police will just pass the query on to the force where the incident took place.
My guess is that they have seen the CCTV and will do bugger all, especially if they know you’ve also been shown the CCTV. That evidence would not be able to be used against a defendant.

An “SW” meaning social worker - this takes months and would absolutely not be next day? Are you perhaps confused who is leading this case?

Other parent isn’t a witness and the solicitor hasn’t been asked as I’ve said they’re a friend of a friend but if asked they probably would say stay clear. I wanted to understand where we stood with SS more than anything

Sorry op but your version of events doesn’t make sense to me. I’m not condoning another adult grabbing your sons wrist and hurting him, but the fact no one else seems that bothered by it, says alot about what the actual situation was in comparison to what you have said.

Im not saying it didn’t happen (stranger things have), but for a woman to go up to your son, demand he gives her son a toy and then grab and twist your sons wrist to get it off him sounds very farfetched. Are you sure it wasn’t a case of her son tried to take the toy out your son’s hand, she tried to seperate them and in doing so accidentally hurt your son in the process? Sounds more likely to be honest, especially as the other parents who saw haven’t been on your side.

The fact the police hasn’t done anything in all this time also says alot. I know they are short staffed but I’m sure an adult assaulting a random child with witnesses and cctv would be quite high up on their list of clear cut cases to solve.

I have a feeling you are one of these generally over dramatic types that is now trying to get some kind of compensation as justification to convince everyone you aren’t the crazy one.

Do they go to school together? Are these all school parents?

OK

So the police have asked to see the CCTV.

I thought you said previously that you had seen the CCTV.

How did you manage to do that?

There is some CCTV yes the police collected it and have shared it with the other force involved.

a contradiction as here you say they have Collected it already

Two police forces are investigating this?

yes. They have done very well indeed to get all that information.

So because a child is playing with his own toy and say no to handing it over to another child because he is playing with it, makes him a little shit?

There is no contradiction, you’ve just got the timeline wrong. Op was asked what the police said at the time of reporting which is the start of the investigation, so they take statements and asked for cctv to be saved so they can collect it. The investigation begins and then the police collect the cctv