AIBU to speak out after another parent assaulted my son?

[Jazzyted]

So really long story I’m summarising as best I can.

My son was assaulted in January by another parent. We were at a birthday gathering. I’ve no idea what possessed her to touch him but I didn’t realise how bad it was until the following day. I made contact with the mother who’d done it to discuss it and she basically cut me off and said “I’m the adult…!” At this point I contacted the parent on the child whose party it was and explained what had happened. I accept I was upset during that call. However now they’re casting me as the villain basically encouraging their kids to bully mine and they’re not speaking to me which I couldn’t be less bothered about but the lies they’re spreading are grating me. I always said I wouldn’t ruin another parent’s reputation to defend my own but I am getting a bit exhausted with it all…!

I have reported to police but they’ve done very little At this point.

Yep

It's weird that this hasn't been stated yet in the thread....

How old is your son OP?

OP, what was the nature of the assault? How old is your child? What did your child say happened in the lead up to the assault?

No my child was still and the injury was from the adult grabbing him around the wrist and manipulating it. No other child was involved. I’ve watched it and the place have a portion of it on cctv. The police are doing interviews slowly because we don’t live in the area in which it occurred. He is 7

Sorry am trying to keep up and the police used the term assault I didn’t want to go into too much detail. I’ve put it below

He is 7

Honestly, the more you post the more utterly farcical it all sounds

So why does she say she grabbed him By the wrist? With nothing else going on. Do you suspect she’s a total psychopath who likes hurting kids? Because it all sounds a bit odd…..that a parent would just do that for no reason. Obviously if that is how it happened then you’re doing the right thing getting the police involved. Is it likely to be on CCTV?

So there was no interaction at all?

She just randomly took it upon herself to grab his wrist?

He is 7. He said he had something her son wanted and he’d said no. That’s the lead up nothing more, that part is also visible on the CCTV

Why did this happen as in what happened directly before?

Cross posted, sorry

My son had something her child wanted (it was my son’s item) he had said no to giving it up so she grabbed him.

In what context did she take hold of his wrist?

Doing it out of the blue just seems like a really, really strange choice.

I’m trying to anewer questions as they pop up maybe I needed more in original post.

@Jazzyted you just need to let the police do their job.

Its not for you to start telling other people what happened as this could hinder the police work.

Why on earth was an adult grabbing a 7 year old around the waist? Some sort of game or messing around?

wrist, not waist

Ok, so the police are investigating. In that case leave them to it.

Based on what you've said - talk to school re bullying and let the police do their work. I'm not sure what you mean by 'speaking up', but getting into it with the alleged assailant and other parents isnt wise. If someone really did grab your little boy and twist his wrist enough to show an injury on an x-ray, they are nuts and dangerous.

i agree in the main just bothered about how long it’s taking. But you’re probs right

I don’t get what you wanted from the host. It wasn’t even at her house. You say you wanted her to know but that you were “upset” on the call with her and she’s turned against you so I do wonder if you got angry at her?

You agree with a lot of my friends! I think that’s half the reason they’re bad mouthing (?) me because they’re thinking I will

Jesus christ, just read your updates. Let the police deal with this one, don’t say anything else to any other parent. I think you should inform the school as well though.

Her comment “I’m the adult.” is weird too.
Because being an adult doesn’t mean she gets to hurt children and it also doesn’t mean she is more important just because she’s an adult. Is she from the year 1900?

Why would people be saying bad things about you if it’s as you say an unprovoked clear-cut case of assault witnessed by others and you say your son did nothing wrong? Why would an adult assault a child for no reason unless they were a psychopath?