I’ve been called a golddigger, haven’t I?

[LouLee63]

I’ve been with my husband for 25 years, married for 20. Really happy together, have a good relationship. We have a really “equal” marriage. We both work full time, contribute everything into one pot, financially comfortable with investments, pensions- all that good stuff.

He lost his last remaining parent a little while ago and, subsequently received a generous inheritance (high six-figures after taxes). As an only child, he was the sole beneficiary.

I met an old friend for dinner last night and she asked after my husband. I said he was well, coming to terms with his bereavement. She asked if probate was sorted and I said yes, without going into detail.

She then said I had “made a very shrewd move”. I asked what she meant and she said I was very smart to “make sure (I) married an only child who’d inherit well”. I pointed out that my husband and I met when we were in our teens and it wasn’t a conscious choice. I married him because I love him. She sneered and said “Yeah, yeah, yeah. Keep telling yourself that”.

I cut the evening short after that.

AIBU to be annoyed that she basically call me a golddigger, and reconsider our friendship?

She sounds both jealous and unpleasant. I’d definitely reconsider the friendship.

She sounds horrible. And jealous tbh.

I'd never speak to her again. She's fucking evil.

She's a jealous bitch.

Watch her try to blow up his phone now

That's very unpleasant of her.

Is there any chance it was a poor taste joke that didn't land? Not sure that makes it any better though.

She's not your friend.

What a dreadful thing to say

She is not a friend. She’ll be asking for a loan next week.

Your friend is a jealous shrew

At best she’s extremely immature.

You mean your ex friend

Oooh it’s a classic mumsnet “friendship” ie neither like the other

How shrewd, all you had to do was be with someone for 25 years, work throughout, build a life together with both your wages, the someone you have also loved for 25 years dies and your get rich scheme works.

What an absolute bitch she is. I would probably message her, tell her why I think she's a dick and then block and never engage with her again.

Sounds like she is judging you by her own low standards. She is an horrible person, block her and never speak to her again. Mu sympathies to you both on your loss.

Well, she's nasty, isn't she?

She's horrible amd is jealous. I must be a gold digger too then. Both my in laws died by the time dh was 33 so his inheritance cleared our mortgage. He did share the amount with his brother.

She ain’t a friend. I would cut contact

Ignore her.

If she has been a good friend up until now, I might be tempted to leave a bit of space before seeing her again and then see how she is behaving. She might be struggling with something in her personal life and spoke without thinking.

But I would find it hard to completely forget the comments, so it would sour the friendship anyway.

I would shrewdly block the bitch and never give her another thought.

Some fucking friend. FWIW my husband is an only child and if anyone said that to me they’d be told to fuck right off.

What makes you say that? We’ve been friends since nursery so close to 40 years. I’ve never seen this side of her before, and I’ve support her through A LOT.

That’s very sad indeed.

So why do you think you are a gold digger, or is it some faux martyr thing so people can slag her off?

Reread the op

If this is a friend, then you have my sympathies

how did this dinner wrap up?