AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

[AliceNotInChains]

Last Easter I went away with DH, Sister and BIL. We stayed in an castle apartment.
As I have IBS and other gut issues I insisted on having a bedroom with an en suit for my benefit and everyone else’s. This was fine, DH and I got the room with the little en-suite. On the first night we were watching a film in the living room and I got up to pop to toilet, I went into the main bathroom and they all started shouting that I should use my own bathroom. I laughed and said I’m only going for a wee and this was met with more shouting of “you have your own toilet”, DH then said “she does this at home too, claims ownership on one toilet then uses everyone else’s”

Anyway it went on and on, the whole 3 nights were spent with them trying to stop me using the main bathroom. I think it started as a joke but they were 100% being serious by the end of it.

Anyway we’re due to go back tomorrow, same place and already sister is dropping hints about whoever gets the en suite uses that exclusively.

Am I the one in the wrong here?? I’m only using main bathroom for peeing btw

Yes of course you are wrong. There are multiple people staying here and you have demanded your own toilet but are still using the one everyone else has to share?!

wrong and entitled.

It’s a toilet. I can’t imagine being so precious about it. Your relatives are being somewhat over the top.

I would take it as ensuite = yours main bathroom = theirs.

You can’t claim your own bathroom and then also expect to use the one you’ve designated for everyone else. Just use the en suite.

Yes, sorry. This would annoy me too. You wouldn’t like them coming into your en-suite for a wee if someone was in the main bathroom, I assume, you’d want them to wait. If you insist on the en-suite and not letting them have it this year then you have to respect their wish for them also to have their own bathroom.

I think if the whole accommodation was set up around you having an en suite you should use it. The more people using yhe bathroom the more it wants cleaning etc, plus they've probably put all their toiletries in there.

I was only using it for weeing and the apartment is spooky, the main bathroom is next to the living room. The en-suite is in the bedroom at the far end of a dark spooky corridor. I know it sounds daft but I’m not the only one freaked out by that corridor

I really can’t see the issue if it was only a wee.

If you are going to talk about your gut issues and insist on your own bathroom then yeah you should use it. If you no it’s bothering other people why wouldn’t you do it? Then you don’t have to keep announcing that you only need a wee etc. Nobody really wants to no if you are having a bad gut day or not

I’m afraid I think you are wrong too.

If you were in your own home, of course you can use any toilet but in this situation when you have requested your own bathroom and you are sharing with others YABU.

Are they allowed to use the en-suite for “just a wee”? If so, no problem but if not, you’re trying to have your cake and eat it!

I reckon I'm going to be in the minority here but I agree with you OP that anyone can go for a wee in the main bathroom!

Having said that, if they are all making a fuss about it, I'd probably just use the en suite for a peaceful holiday even though they are wrong.

I can't imagine going up to the bedroom to use the loo if we were sitting in the living room and there's a downstairs loo.

I think if it meant going upstairs and using someone else's bathroom (ie not just a loo), I'd use the ensuite.

Yeah that would annoy me. By taking a bathroom for yourself, the other bathroom has been designated as the bathroom for the others. You can’t just hog one and then take over the other one.

What a storm in a tea cup! Unless you’re making other people wait ages for a wee and won’t let anyone use your en-suite, I can’t see the issue.

It doesn’t sound like there are any stairs

Are you and DH paying more for the use of the en-suite? Does seem like you want everything your way.

Spooky corridors are a pathetic excuse.

I don’t get why you kept wanting to use the main toilet throughout the holiday, despite your need for your own private toilet that dictated where everyone else had to stay. Doesn’t matter what you were depositing there.

I’m not surprised it pissed people off - particularly if your excuse was that the corridor was too spooky for you to use your own toilet 🙄.

Well, why are you going back to the same place if it creeps you out so much you don't want to use the toilet you specifically requested? Can't you see how annoying it is to bag the room with the en-suite then not bothering to use it, even sometimes?

I assume if the corridor is spooky, you're not going to ask for the bedroom with the en-suite again, are you..?

I think if you 'insist' on having your own bathroom, you use your own bathroom.

How far away is the en suite from the living room 🤔 … if it was several flights of stairs then crack on … a few steps then use your own loo.

It wouldn't bother me but you know it bothers them and have actively chosen to join them in the same place and are aggravated before even setting off. It's become a flashpoint and as the majority are in agreement and you've 'won the en-suite' pick your battles and use it

We stay with family on holiday regular and my parents get the en suite if there is only one. I’ve never even thought of banning them from the other bathrooms, a quick wee is never a bother.

Also, you want to en-suite for the safety of knowing you can do whatever you need to in there, without worrying about others. Why can’t the others have the same with their bathroom?

If you’re too scared to go to your own bathroom, the answer is to let your sister have the room with its own en suite and you can use the main bathroom.