AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

[AliceNotInChains]

Last Easter I went away with DH, Sister and BIL. We stayed in an castle apartment.
As I have IBS and other gut issues I insisted on having a bedroom with an en suit for my benefit and everyone else’s. This was fine, DH and I got the room with the little en-suite. On the first night we were watching a film in the living room and I got up to pop to toilet, I went into the main bathroom and they all started shouting that I should use my own bathroom. I laughed and said I’m only going for a wee and this was met with more shouting of “you have your own toilet”, DH then said “she does this at home too, claims ownership on one toilet then uses everyone else’s”

Anyway it went on and on, the whole 3 nights were spent with them trying to stop me using the main bathroom. I think it started as a joke but they were 100% being serious by the end of it.

Anyway we’re due to go back tomorrow, same place and already sister is dropping hints about whoever gets the en suite uses that exclusively.

Am I the one in the wrong here?? I’m only using main bathroom for peeing btw

If you want the main bathroom then choose a bedroom near the main bathroom.

The issue is they probably all ended up paying more the others have probably accepted a shitter smaller room because op made an issue of it then she has the cheek to use the other bathroom after causing an issue. I would imagine the others where already pissed off and that tipped them over

Indeed. Why book the place again if a corridor freaks you out?

YABU. That would piss me off too. All my stuff would be out in “my bathroom” and you insisted on having your own.

Do you really converse with fellow adults before you/they go to the toilet as to what specific purposes you intend to fulfil in there?!

Also (and I don't really want an answer to this!), do you never go 'just for a wee' and then find that you need an upgrade?!

I bet it’s Chillingham Castle…?

The easy solution is to let the other couple have the en-suite room, & you & dh then have sole use of the main, non spooky bathroom.

But yeah, the en suite bedroom is usually the nicer/bigger/master bedroom. You can’t have that as a perk AND go using their bathroom too.

Seriously??? You insist on the room at the end of a spooky hall so you have your own bathroom, then refuse to use your own bathroom because it's at the end of a spooky corridor?

And the..... You return to the same holiday home the following year with the spooky hall that terrified you so much you couldn't walk down or to use your own bathroom?

I have to ask.... Are you 6 years old?

'Spooky corridor'
And all this was a year ago? A whole year?

I have to ask OP - are you quite well?

I cant believe how petty and territorial people are being about a sodding toilet. I would assume en suites are for use first and last thing as well as in the middle of the night and see no issue with someone using the main bathroom to have a quick wee in during the course of an evening. What a total non-issue, ffs. If op is constantly in there despite having the en suite, or refused to let someone use the en suite on occasion when needed then I could see the point, but the day I am outraged because a close family member does a wee in the main bathroom of the holiday accommodation I have chosen to share with her is the day I would really question my priorities. I also think the dh comment was really horrible.

It does seem to be causing an issue for these people though so maybe it would be better to find accommodation with two ensuites as they are clearly resentful of op having one.

God this wouldn’t bother me at all! I expect an en-suite to save queues in the morning and evening when people are showering, brushing teeth etc, I wouldn’t think twice if someone with an en-suite used the main bathroom, which is right next to the living area, to pop in for a wee in the middle of the day!

Oh for goodness sake. What's going to happen to you in the corridor? You wanted the en suite so use it.

Yep, IBS is unpredictable as I said. You go in with one plan and come out having had a different experience.

I think your family are very rude and bad mannered.

It's one thing being sensitive to someone's health issues and it's another making a HUGE drama out of it so that you're embarrassed.

You are fully entitled to use any toilet.

I really think you need to nip this in the bud and make out how it upsets you before you go away. Talk to your partner and tell him to back you up.

Your partner sounds like an arse and TBH I'd not be with someone who treats me like that unless they have many more redeeming features.

They’re being incredibly weird and frankly, bullying.

When people go for a wee they use the nearest loo. By their logic, if you were staying in a three-storey house with your en-suite on the top floor, you’d be banned from using the downstairs loo. That’s stupid, abnormal and nasty.

Certainly you shouldn’t be having baths, showers or anything other than a wee in the shared bathroom. But you’re not.

Sad if you have got to this stage in life and don’t understand how your behaviour affects others! Or care.

Missing the point somewhat.

You are already getting what is probably the nicer, bigger room with the ensuite. Also using the main bathroom is a bit greedy. Continuing to do so when you knew the others didn’t like it is rude on your part.

Eh?

You really think OP is in the wrong?

Get a grip.

YABU. Gut issues or not, whenever I have been on holiday with friends, we each used our designated bathroom. We did have a large ensuite last time and I would have never dreamed of going for a wee in the shared bathroom. Gross and defeats the whole purpose of you getting an ensuite.

Are the other couple fully entitled to use any toilet too?

MN is another world.

How can a person be 'greedy' about using a toilet meant for everyone?

The en suite is so the OP can use the toilet at night or not embarrass herself and others by leaving it smelling (you surely know what IBS can be like?)

If she wants a wee, what on earth is wrong in using the other toilet?

I presume that the en-suite is off the master bedroom so you have taken the best bedroom as well. Are you paying more for your stay OP?

I think you are missing the point.
People with IBS poo a lot at any time.
OP has asked for the en suite to avoid leaving anti social smells if she needs to poo, or if she needs the loo at night.

That doesn't mean she can't use the house bathroom at other times.

This thread is ridiculous and they all sound about 12.

Have you missed the point OP has a health issue ? Hence the en suite.

The only reason she shouldn't use the house toilet is if it's already in use.

If there's four of you, you have a bathroom each, so the main bathroom becomes that of the other couple. Stop going in there.