AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

[AliceNotInChains]

Last Easter I went away with DH, Sister and BIL. We stayed in an castle apartment.
As I have IBS and other gut issues I insisted on having a bedroom with an en suit for my benefit and everyone else’s. This was fine, DH and I got the room with the little en-suite. On the first night we were watching a film in the living room and I got up to pop to toilet, I went into the main bathroom and they all started shouting that I should use my own bathroom. I laughed and said I’m only going for a wee and this was met with more shouting of “you have your own toilet”, DH then said “she does this at home too, claims ownership on one toilet then uses everyone else’s”

Anyway it went on and on, the whole 3 nights were spent with them trying to stop me using the main bathroom. I think it started as a joke but they were 100% being serious by the end of it.

Anyway we’re due to go back tomorrow, same place and already sister is dropping hints about whoever gets the en suite uses that exclusively.

Am I the one in the wrong here?? I’m only using main bathroom for peeing btw

In your original post you were unreasonable, in this post you have added “ridiculous” to that.

Thinking about it, the more people use a bathroom, the smellier it is likely to become. Particularly with males who tend to spray even if they think they aren’t.
Fair enough you commandeered the en suite, others probably assumed your DH would use that too. Instead he uses the main bathroom and then you decide to use it too. I can see why the others are annoyed.

IBS can be messy & make a terrible smell as well as prolonged time in the toilet using lots of paper. Keep to your own toilet, even for wees. They will have their toiletries, toothbrushes etc in that main toilet & will not want poop discrepancies in there. Presumably when you IBS hits you make your way down that same spooky corridor?

But they are two couples with two bathrooms, so the 'main' bathroom is clearly not being used as a main bathroom for their stay, as it would if it were a family with young kids staying there.

Just like some places may have a downstairs bedroom with all the rest upstairs... if you only need 3 bedrooms (and are all able-bodied and fully mobile) and the place has 3 bedrooms upstairs and a fourth one downstairs, you may well agree to use that as an additional communal room for everybody.

However, if you need to use all 4 bedrooms for the people in your group, you wouldn't declare the downstairs one as a bonus 'communal bedroom' and have all the people with upstairs bedrooms using it freely to store their personal effects in, pop in there whenever they want to change, check their makeup, top up their deodorant or have a little nap after a busy morning out; with the person/people whose bedroom it is just smiling as they see everybody else trampling through, and just hoping that it might be free when they need it.

We once made a big meal for about 12 of us friends at uni - half were vegetarian and half were omnivores (and nobody in the latter group had made a request to have a veggie version); so we had one huge dish for 6 people and another for the other 6.

When we put the serving dishes out on the table, making it very clear which was which, two of the omnis fancied the look of the veggie one (or maybe just grabbed at the nearest one, I can't fully remember), and instantly helped themselves to about two thirds of it between them.

It's definitely a mindset that some people have: automatically putting themselves front and centre and not even registering that other people might have needs, preferences or feelings too.

I can't believe people actually get worked up about this stuff. The mind boggles

well why didn't you say that in your original post then rather than the drip-feed?

She also didn't mention that her DSis and BIL's names are Velma and Shaggy.

So spooky that they booked it a second time

Oh gosh, that would also annoy me.
It's exactly that, putting their needs above everyone else's.

OP has her own bathroom, but even that isn't enough.

My god the majority of people here are being ridiculous. From the title I assumed you were taking long luxurious baths in the main bathroom not going for a quick wee 😂 who really cares?!?! FFS, so petty!

I don't think I'd care if someone who had an en suite used the main bathroom if I were on holiday with them, but it's clearly pissing off your family, so you shouldn't do it. The spooky corridor excuse is ridiculous! You're a grown woman, you know it's safe, and you presumably agreed to rebook this property so I don't think you can claim to be so freaked out you can't traverse the corridors by yourself.

Why does it only go one way, though? Why is it petty that OP wouldn't be willing to freely let her DSis and BIL use her en-suite if the 'main' bathroom was occupied? In fact, why is it not petty that she resents her own DH using it, when it's clearly there for occupants of that bedroom?

In general, if you go out of your way to be petty and unreasonable to other people, they frequently reciprocate.

The thing is in order to get the en suite you told everyone you needed your own bathroom ‘for everyone else’s sake’ which will have created a certain picture in their head. They don’t know what you’re doing in the other toilet or that it’s just a wee?

You can tell the entitled ones from this thread.
Just the "who cares" comments, when many have said why and considering the tread is about OP's sister, BIL and even DH caring says it all.
No regard for anyone else.

What a load of shit

In all seriousness if you’ve got an en suite you insisted on, you use the en suite.

Well aren’t you the special one! First you INSIST on having the bedroom with the en-suite, the then you make excuses as to why you won’t use it, and INSIST its ‘only a wee’ when you use their bathroom.

So special 👌🏻 (and bloody rude and entitled!)

In normal circumstances, without any kind of demanding insistence going on, I imagine nobody would have batted an eyelid about this. But your princess behaviour has got their backs up - and you are now reaping your justice rewards. Deal with it Princess.

Use ‘your’ en suite
been in a property where one bedroom had en-suite other room used the other bathroom exclusive use

You “ insisted” on claiming the en-suite and then have the audacity to use the main bathroom. No, you use “ your “ bathroom that YOU made a claim on, end of!

Also, why are you going back to the same castle apartment, when you are too infantile to walk across a corridor, to get to YOUR bathroom??

Utter madness and entitlement!

So long as you are ok with them all coming into your en-suite for a shit , OP, then I can’t see an issue. Shit stinks after all regardless of whether or not one has IBS
@AliceNotInChains

But she hasn't been using the main bathroom for a shit I don't get your point.

So OP informs us. However, the others don't know what she's going in there for; all they know is that she has bad IBS that she cited as the justification for insisting on the en-suite in the first place.

Moreover, surely one very major characteristic of IBS is that it is often sudden and unpredictable. If OP can be absolutely certain that she will only have a wee and no urge for anything more, considering that most of us who don't suffer from IBS will have occasions where we find that we need a 'surprise upgrade', it's not especially strengthening OP's case for insisting that she simply had to have the en-suite for her own exclusive use, is it?

Sure, she might be lying about her bodily functions for the sake of 'winning' the thread. 🙄

Where did I say she was lying? Just stating a fact that applies to most of us. I'm not denying that she has IBS at all; just saying that she can't have things both ways: unpredictable when it comes to getting the en-suite but totally predictable when it comes to using somebody else's en-suite equivalent.

OP doesn't owe any of us on here anything; it's her DH, DSis and BIL who have been put out.