Should I tell my partner about drunken kiss with a colleague?

[Rachhh9]

NC’d for this.

Ahhhhh I’m really feeling anxious atm. My own fault I know. I had a drunken kiss/grope with a colleague on a work night out on Friday. Woke up the next morning feeling regret but thinking I’d just forget about it. Now I can’t help feeling so much guilt and that I should tell my long term DP.

Do you think if I just try really hard to forget about it, or fess up? And be clear it meant nothing and I had far too much to drink.

yes they would. Have seen people tell them to ltb for far worse interactions with coworkers.

Have a shred of respect and tell him. Who would want to be in the dark about this?

Anyone with a vague bit of self respect would. Cheating isn't ever fixable. Relationships don't ever completely recover from

Because some people are exhausted and have severe brain fog make due to severe chronic illness.

but they don’t feel the need to correct people on the internet just to make them feel small and stupid.

Just because no one was there doesn't mean he wont go blabing to everyone.

Either you are unhappy in your relationship and this is a symptom

OR

You have a problem with drinking

Either way this should be a MASSIVE wake up call that triggers real change.

If I wasnt going to tell my partner and intended to stay with him i'd be looking to change jobs asap and not stay in contact with anyone from that job ever.

Sorry, hope you feel better soon.

But that doesnt mean people can't point out incorrect use of words, particularly when they are being used to try and prove a point.

For the fuckers on this thread that say keep ya mouth shut trust me it hurts more when you find out its been kept a secret.
The DS on here is shameful.
Goes to show women cheat more on here.

I think it's really unfair to keep something from your spouse that would potentially cause them to rethink the relationship. They deserve to make an informed decision.

But it seems like you're just looking to alleviate guilt. It isn't fair that he has to shoulder this hurt, but that should have been thought about before cheating on him.

I think you should grow up and stop blaming drink for your skanky behaviour.

This with bells on everyone blames the drink.

For them that are saying keep it to yourself i think these commenters have cheated themselfs.

Maybe that's for the cheated on partner to decide.

So you want to risk ruining his life in order to relievie your own guilt?!
How selfish of you! This is the consequence of cheating and you need to lay in that bed you've made.

I think you should tell him

He deserves to have the opportunity to decide if he wants to remain in the relationship or if he wants to end the relationship.

Everyone who is saying don't tell him is taking the right to have that choice away from him.

He might be able to move past it and stay together. He might not. But it should be his decision

And its pathetic trying to blame being drunk. You did this...own it.

Whatever 🙄
Doesn't change the fact that if this was a man posting about a drunken kiss and grope he would have his ass handed to him on a plate and the majority of posters would be giving VERY different advice and would give him hell for doing it.

I disagree. One kiss is too many for me.... I would 100% LTB after one kiss.
If everything else was good? Nothing would be good for me at that stage. I'd always be questioning why my partner was a cheat.

He should be allowed to decide what the impact is on your relationship. It is not selfish to tell him - that is nonsense. Rather It would be the second act of deceit not to tell him.

It's funny isn't it, how many are say 'It's just a kiss' when they know full well it was groping too.

I'd want to know.

Doing it would be bad enough in the first place. I wouldn't want someone to compound it by not telling me.

I'd rather be in a position to make an informed choice about whether I wanted to remain in the relationship. And I really wouldn't want to be with someone who could compound disrespect with more disrespect.

Are you kidding! Yes they totally would.
Lots of threads on here in the past about men just having flirtatious chats with another female and its all LTB!

And what if he would prefer not to be with someone who had done this? Where is his choice?

Yes it is utterly unbelievable that people have such low respect for their partners and take the moral high ground

My soon-to-be-ex wife was cheating on me in 2020. I was suspicious at the time but I didn't find out for certain until shortly after she left me in 2025. That's five years of my life I could have had back if she'd had the decency to tell me at the time.