AIBU to be stressed and annoyed if DH took my house keys?

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I just need to vent. Think DH has accidentally taken my house keys to work so I’m stuck at home, nice plans for the day are kaput. I know he’s generally busy and on his feet so I sent him a message and called his work phone during lunch but no answer. Just feeling unable to enjoy the day and stressed, wondering if he has them which I think is most likely, or I lost them somewhere else which is obviously a big problem.

No, you.

How on earth do you survive like this? This is just not the big deal that you think it is

My DD did this, only she thought she was tidying up and put the bunch of keys in my bag without anyone’s knowledge……unfortunately we were at the doctor’s and they were his set of keys.
I didn’t find them until a few days later, deep baby bag, and had no idea who they belonged to, until the receptionist, a friend, told of the day the keys were mislaid and the urgent steps they had to take 😞.

Your DC is controlling. LTB.

Well, they're not none, are they?

The chances of getting burgled are slim to none.

As a Londoner, this made me laugh quite a bit.

Oh lol.

Firstly, yes, you can go out, but if you have a door that locks itself behind you (such as a Yale lock), how are you to get back in again? And if the keyring had your car keys on it, you can't go out in that either.

Secondly, the chances of being burgled are higher than you think, and your contents insurers will not pay out when they find out there was no forced entry and the burglars got in because you'd left the door unlocked.

No, I think the chances of getting burgled are a lot lower than most people think. I leave my door unlocked all the time. I leave my car keys in the car overnight. Never burgled. I have however been burgled with the doors locked. Locked doors don't really prevent burglarys. They smash windows, pick locks etc.
People watch too much crime watch.

Also, they never mentioned not having access to their car. I don't make assumptions, I jsut stick to the info they give us

I cannot imagine why anyone would even want to leave their car keys in their car overnight? Are they inordinately heavy or something?

There were 245,000 burglaries recorded by police in England and Wales in the year to March 2025. Roughly 1 burglary every 2–3 minutes across England and Wales. Where is this utopia where you live where taking the most basic bare bones precautions seems excessive?

My NDN was burgled when her DS left their patio door unlocked.

Why are so many people assuming that because she didn't have her keys she couldn't leave the house? She never said that, and if that is truly the case that would be absolutely horrifying! I assumed the issue was that if she left she wouldn't be able to lock the door behind her or, if the door automatically locks (also kind of horrifying although less so), she wouldn't be able to get back in.

Is it really not a legal necessity in the UK to have two methods of egress for safety? We have a back door but not a key for it. It locks from the inside but we've never tried to lock or unlock it from the outside. If I was truly stuck in my house without my keys, I would keep the front door locked and leave through the back door, assuming that burglars would be less likely to try that door.

DH found them in the laundry basket where DC had hidden them.

Ooh, plot twist!😄

Nope it is definitely not a legal requirement to have more than one point of egress in the UK. I currently live in a 200 year old split villa. We are the top half. If is right on the pavement. No front garden. Downstairs has a front door on the pavement and a back door into their garden. To get to us you walk down the gap between us and the house next door and up a set of stair up the back to our door. In the event of a fire near the door we would have to go out a window at the front and drop down to the pavement from downstairs. Or be lucky enough that it was near the front door but not blocking the back living room window as that opens out onto the flat roof of downstair's kitchen. We have 2 attic bedrooms upstairs though and those would need us to slide down the roof and then either drop into the flat room as before or try and inch over from the bit above the stairs to get to the flat roof. My last flat was the top floor of a Scottish tenement. So one door and if the stairwell is blocked then it is out the window but we were 3rd floor. We had a roll up emergency ladder but I didn't fancy having to use it.

I dont want to, I just forget. You've just reminded me to go get them so thanks. I dont think locking doors is excessive. I think worrying about it enough to cancel plans and feel extreme anxiety is batshit

She literally said she was stuck home all day, so 'couldn't leave her house'

I took it to mean she was stuck at home all day because she couldn't leave her house because she wouldn't be able to lock the door behind her, not that she was physically unable to leave the house.

If you are right, isn't that a way bigger problem than him taking the car keys? What if there was a fire?

A spare set of keys is a useful thing.

Sounds like he's playing gaslighting games

You think DH is gaslighting? DC admitted to it when we asked.

oh ooops!

She does mean she can't leave the house because she doesn't have keys, so can't lock it. Not for any other reason.

What has made you think she's physically incapable of leaving?

I didn't think that! I was responding to other posters who seemed to think she couldn't physically leave the house because she was locked in and there was no way to open the door without a key. I certainly hope they are wrong because that would be terrifying and a way bigger issue than her husband accidentally taking her keys.

Oh right, I've never gears of not being able to open a door from the inside. Sounds like a fire hazard.

Exactly! And it doesn't just sound like a fire hazard. It very much is a fire hazard. And that it why I was so shocked that people were suggesting this was the case.