AIBU to be stressed and annoyed if DH took my house keys?

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I just need to vent. Think DH has accidentally taken my house keys to work so I’m stuck at home, nice plans for the day are kaput. I know he’s generally busy and on his feet so I sent him a message and called his work phone during lunch but no answer. Just feeling unable to enjoy the day and stressed, wondering if he has them which I think is most likely, or I lost them somewhere else which is obviously a big problem.

Well Ive just explained it. He didnt realise he has a set of keys on him already, sees a set that looks similar so thinks they are his , picks them up and dashes out the door.

I did this with my husbands reading glasses at the weekend.

Husband doing it on purpose? THAT doesnt sit right!

Why are they anywhere he can take them? Keep mine in my handbag. He wouldn't go in there without permission.

My husband has a set of keys to my car and I have a set. He'd used my set, and automatically put them in his coat pocket, when he got out of the car. I went to use my car the next day, and my car keys weren't in my handbag!! Hunted everywhere, couldn't find them. I ring him, and yep he's taken his set and my set to work!! I end up frantically ringing my Dad to come over to pick me up and drive me to work!!!

We are super careful now, to make sure, if he's used my set, that he gives them back!! I know it's annoying OP. You need to get a spare set of keys cut, and put them somewhere safe, in case it ever happens again.

Oh now I’ve read it all!!! He’s an adult, her husband not a toddler

Yes having no car key messes up my day the most as the bus just isn't as convenient as hopping in the car (with young kids in tow).

There are frequent burglaries or attempted burglaries where I live, most often between late morning and mid afternoon. I have never lived anywhere where you could be pretty sure no one would try to enter a property illegally, and if you have left your door unlocked I should think it invalidates contents insurance.

All this leaping to the husband must have done it on purpose to ruin her day - OP doesn't even know for sure that he has taken them, or whether she's just mislaid them somewhere.

If he's purposely taken them you definitely wouldn't be unreasonable. Can you call us work place and ask for him that way? My ex used to take my keys on purpose and the weekend before we split he actually took my keys, all of the phone chargers and the top up cards for my electric and gas meters. He didn't come back for two days

Find it so amusing that so many posters think that their house keys/locks/doors/relationships even,are exactly the same as everyone else’s!

Not cool. If you can't get out without them, can you go out the back door, or what do you do in the case of a fire?

How has he taken 2 sets and not realised? This doesn't make sense

Unless you live in a flat, can you go out back door? we never take back door keys out?

That's a bit annoying if he taken both sets of keys. I have a load of key rings on mine so there wouldn't be the chance of grabbing by mistake. But I could see how it could happen if at the weekend mine had been used by DH to unlock the garage and then he has pocketed them and forgotten, and then gone out to work having taken his own.

Hope he does actually have both sets though and one set aren't missing.

So I've now stopped leaving them in the door as I used to and my husband would take his own as usual in his pocket then in a rush going out the door 5 minutes later he would also grab mine, unlock the car and go not realising he has both sets. Super frustrating and it's something I've never done but he did it a few times until I purposely started keeping them in my bag and not in the door or by the door. Sympathies OP!

We have a keysafe box with a back door key in for emergencies. We have a front door key on a hook near the door for sure safety reasons. We gave several neighbours a set of keys and have spares for the kids and us on hooks in the kitchen.

Our house wouldn't function if it was down to one key at all!!

It can happen. A work colleague of mine did this. Her key bunch and mine were pretty much identical. She came to my office to see me and I wasn't there so she left a note on my desk, scooped up my keys, which she thought were hers and zoomed off....except hers were still in her coat pocket. Of course I knew none of this, just that my keys had vanished. Luckily I work very near to where I live and I got a local friend to go to my house, get my hidden spare key and bring that and my housekey to where I worked. The "key thief" was mortified the next day. This was years ago, long long before airtags. The stress was horrible

He has taken both sets?

Nevertheless it’s pretty sensible if you’ve got one handbag you use nearly all the time to keep your keys in it. My DH doesn’t need ‘permission’ to look in mine but he wouldn’t typically take anything from it without asking me.

This is an enlightening thread. I’m astounded at the amount of women that aren’t capable of choosing a decent partner. How may leapt to the he’s controlling, he’s done it deliberately etc. sad times. My husband did it once, he takes my car keys to plug it on charge at night when he walks the dog. Left them in his trouser pocket and didn’t realise until I asked him where they were! At no point would it have ever entered my head that he’d done it to keep me at home and control me.

It's not necessarily about the lack of a spare, a back door key, or being locked in with no escape route in case of fire. OP hasn't said that she can't get out of the house, but without the keys she either can't secure the door or can't re-enter.

Besides disappointment that her plans couldn't go ahead, OP can't feel at ease until she knows where the keys are.

Hopefully there's nothing nefarious going on, just a simple mistake and the keys will be located soon.

Get a spare set cut and either put it in a key safe somewhere outside if you have that kind of set up at home, or hide them somewhere in your house. I hate having a big bunch of keys so I have one front door key on a ridiculous key chain so the entire family knows they are mine. I’m also lucky enough to have lovely neighbours so they have a set as well and I have theirs. I also have a key safe for the idiot teens who seem to think it’s still Covid and that there will always be someone at home.

My DH does things like this all the time and it's infuriating.

DH has taken my car and house keys by mistake before as they look the same but as soon as he realised he came back even though it meant leaving work. It’s not a nice feeling that you cannot leave as you cannot drive or lock the house.

Ha! That was the most Mumsnet post, wasn't it?

"I have so little imagination, I can't conceive of a life unlike my own"

My DHs trouser pockets typically contain wallet, phone and 2 sets of car keys, each with a house key and AirTag attached. He could easily put another set in without it making a significant difference. Even worse when he used to wear a jacket for work.
Otoh my keys are all in my handbag - I’ve no reason to pick up more but if I did it’d be easy not to notice