AIBU to be stressed and annoyed if DH took my house keys?

[Mum18283]

I just need to vent. Think DH has accidentally taken my house keys to work so I’m stuck at home, nice plans for the day are kaput. I know he’s generally busy and on his feet so I sent him a message and called his work phone during lunch but no answer. Just feeling unable to enjoy the day and stressed, wondering if he has them which I think is most likely, or I lost them somewhere else which is obviously a big problem.

I feel you - I had something a bit similar this morning - I couldn't unlock the conservatory door because DH had lost the key and I had spotted feathers and an obviously injured and partially hidden pigeon in my garden.

Couldn't get through the side gate (as he'd lost that as it was on the conservatory key ring) and I couldn't get through the garage either and my God I went into a rage - I knew I was being unreasonable but in my head at that moment, I felt I was being reasonable because I was desperate to get to this poor bird and my DH has form for losing things.

So I can totally empathise with you, even though your DH hasn't done it on purpose.

I don’t know he can have taken both sets of keys “by accident”?

Oh I feel your rage. DH once locked the front door and left his key in it so I couldn’t get in. Then went upstairs to the attic room and put music on . He couldn’t hear me banging the door and had his phone on silent!

Words were had that night I can tell you.

Don’t you? He picked up set B not realising that he already had set A on him somewhere.

This makes no sense.

In an earlier post you said

It’s not deliberate - they do look similar by colour but if you look it’s obvious who’s is who’s.

Which would mean that he has picked up the wrong set. But now you're saying he has taken both his set of keys AND yours?

Where are his keys? Has he really taken both?

Why don't you have a spare? You need one asap- what would happen if there was a fire?

Taking both sets (so picking up the second set without first checking about his person, which would have revealed he had the first set) is carelessness rather than an accident or mistake.

But yes I agree there should always be a spare - unless you think the selfish bastable would take all three rather than bother to check if he had the first two lots!

Get a spare that you keep somewhere only you know about I guess.

It's not difficult to leave with two sets of keys. You have yours in your pocket and then as you leave, you see keys and absentmindedly pick them up.

Not sure what the big deal is tbh. We never lock our door and haven't done for goodness knows how many years. I don't know why you can't just go about your day as normal.

We've got one key for 5 of us which never leaves the back of the door

Really? You can’t see why that’s not an option for everyone?

i live in a village where you could leave the door open and go out and it be fine, but that doesn’t mean I’m daft enough to think that everyone could do the same safely.

You really cant think this one through?

Why are posters feigning incredulity and pretending not to know what happened? Not to mention jumping to wild conclusions about OP doing this on purpose to ruin her day.

Can no one genuinely imagine a perfectly reasonable explanation? Two very similar sets of keys. A Monday morning. OP's husband's keys are in his pocket or a bag. He doesn't realise this, is on his way out the door and sees OP's keys, assumes they are his and off he goes.

Is the issue that you are locked in? Or that you can't get back in if you leave?

OP I sympathise. My husband has done this twice. He takes both sets to work as he is often chasing his tail and in stress just grabs keys and goes. Totally messes up my day. We have a spare key so I use that or if not going far I just leave door open and nip out. Once I had to get the bus as I have no car key when he does this.

I'm not a confident driver and never need to go far on my day off so the local bus is an option.

Do get a spare key cut!

Seems very risky if that is only key and only door
What is the contingency if someone takes it ?
What if you all away on holiday with key and it gets mislaid?

Exactly! This will happen every day up and down the country but no..on here there has to be an ulterior motive

Getting AirTags is definitely a good idea. we have them on our house and car keys with different coloured holders.

Totally messes up my day. We have a spare key so I use that

You mean it would mess up your day if you didn't have the spare key - which you do actually have.

The car keys are obviously a pita though.

It would be a big deal if someone came into your house and stole your possessions as you likely would not be insured if the door was unlocked.
It would be a big deal if you had, like many many people, a door that locks itself as you close it as you won't get back in without a key.
OP mine have an air tag on them. Not because my husband takes them as he's far more organised than me. But because I'm forever mislaying them

We have a set each plus a key safe by the front door. Is that an option?

No I don’t. If your other half is in the house and there’s only one set of keys ….? Just doesn’t sit right. Also not sure how anyone lives having two near identical sets of keys with no distinguishing feature on them.

Then again, we have a key on each of our car keys so this just couldn’t even happen in my house unless you pick up two full sets of car keys, knowing one was for a car you’re not planning to take, then drive away in the other one. So the whole situation doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. And that’s before the question about not having any spares?!

Electric garage doors can be’ wound up’ if you can get in the garage and disconnect the drive thingy