AIBU to be stressed and annoyed if DH took my house keys?

[Mum18283]

I just need to vent. Think DH has accidentally taken my house keys to work so I’m stuck at home, nice plans for the day are kaput. I know he’s generally busy and on his feet so I sent him a message and called his work phone during lunch but no answer. Just feeling unable to enjoy the day and stressed, wondering if he has them which I think is most likely, or I lost them somewhere else which is obviously a big problem.

It's not the taking of the keys that was the problem for me. It was that having caused an issue, however accidentally, my ex-h didn't feel any responsibility for even helping to fix it. In my current relationship I know that if either of us had done anything to make things even slightly more difficult for the other we would be doing everything possible to fix the problem.

Unless it turns out that the husband here is a brain surgeon, it's quite inconceivable to me that someone who I assume is a father is uncontactable all day.

What a bizarre life you have, trying to spend time convincing someone who has told.you its not deliberate, that she is in a horrible marriage based on nothing.

Everyone that is jumping to controlling needs to take a look at themselves

Most of the UK? Most of Europe?

Do you live in a Premier Inn?

Does your door lock behind you? Do you have a back door? I’d probably risk it if I had plans and go out leaving something open so I could get back in! I’ve also once climbed through a back and front window to get in when I locked myself out! I mean I now know how to deter burglars!

Exactly. It's trial by Mumsnet.

I’d assume so if I’m honest!

This thread is madness. @MasterBethi enjoyed your sarcasm and feel it was unfairly misread in many responses.

gasp how can this POSSIBLY have happened??? 😱

My OH locked me in once, I rang him and he came home to let me out- I was pretty annoyed, so feel your pain.

@HesarealJacquelineHigh are not two exits legally required for fire and safety?

You only have one set of keys each, no spares? What would happen in an emergency?

Sorry, but this is bonkers. You should always have a spare set in the property.

My ex used to hide my keys, on purpose, so that I couldn't go out.

He also used to take the push chair to work in the boot of the car. Your post is quite concerning as he's jeopardised your day off when he has his own set of keys op.

To me, the real problem is that between the two of you, you never thought ahead to have an extra set or two tucked away in case of emergency.

It's certainly concerning if the OP's husband hid her keys, on purpose, so that she couldn't go out.

But he didn't. So it isn't.

I don't know a single person with one

Do you never make mistakes?

No, I can't envisage this at all. Why are you controlling your partner?

Nor me. And I live in a pretty middle class area, where folks aren't short of gadgetry.

Having a key safe isn't unusual though. And they're a godsend when you lock yourself out.

No. Controlling. LTB.

No .

My DH did this once accidentally, many years ago. He'd left his coat in my car, gone out to fetch it, came back indoors with my keys in his pocket, and then grabbed his own keys and went off to work in his car. I was not best pleased.

Still... I got my karma the day he gave me a lift to the railway station. He went home, put his keys & phone down on the side, then went out the front door again and managed to lock himself out. He had to clamber over a 6ft fence into the back garden, then climb up and squeeze himself through the kitchen window because the back door was locked as well. 😂

Told off? You were trying to tell me how I should interpret something, as though your opinion is the only one that counts. Perhaps allow people to have their own views on things and you won’t feel you’ve been “told off” when they don’t agree with you…

One min you’re saying you agreeing with me that it doesn’t sound right, now you’re changing view point.

Sounds legit 👀

No I wasn’t .. I was giving an explanation that’s all and you bit my head off. I don’t really care either way .

I didn’t bite your head off at all. You were telling me in no uncertain terms that my view was wrong and you doubled down as such when I dared to push back and support my original view, rather than acquiescing to yours.

I hadn’t even spoken to you, it was you who leapt on me! Yet now you’re accusing me of biting your head off and claiming you “don’t really care”? Not sure why you commented in the first place then?

My god, people on here really will fight about anything.😀