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To want daughter to honour our agreement with new car

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ForZanyTraybake · 19/03/2026 01:44

I was widowed recently and as I don't drive I bought my daughter a brand new car so that we could use it for shopping and she could go to work in it. After just a couple of months she's driving her boyfriend everywhere in it, he never takes her anywhere in his car, and she never takes me shopping anymore. Am I being unreasonable if I tell her I want her to stop driving him about and I want her to take me shopping so that I don't have to get cabs?

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DearDenimEagle · 20/03/2026 19:25

Barrenfieldoffucks · 20/03/2026 18:05

As with so many things, the devil is in the detail here.

How many times would the OP like her daughter to take her, how much notice does she give etc.

however it was phrased, the daughter agreed to the terms in exchange for the use of a car for getting to work , which is quite a substantial expense for the OP and convenience for the daughter. That she is not doing anything but use the car for work plus things not agreed, eg boyfriend, with no benefit to the OP in terms of shopping, she is breaching the agreement.

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