AIBU to feel disappointed by DP’s ‘effort’ on my first Mother's Day?

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Just looking for some second opinions really. DP thinks I’m being ungrateful and have too high expectations because of social media.

Today was my first Mother’s Day, I was really excited. I’d made a big effort for DP’s first Father’s Day last June.

His parents came round this morning, at which point I was presented with some flowers which still had the price tag on and a card. I opened the card, and rather than a nice personalised one from my DS (as I’d got him, one with photos on) it was a novelty card which said ‘your farts stink but I still love you’- made the more embarrassing that his parents saw it.

He then said he’d booked a table for us to have a roast - this was at a carvery chain where we had to sit in a dedicated kids area with a play area (no use for DS at this stage), kids running amok and a load of noise so we couldn’t hear each other speak. Really stressful and not at all relaxing.

DP thinks I’m being ungrateful, said he sorted a card, flowers and a meal so ‘what more could I want’?

I don’t think unreasonable OP. I think a mismatch of expectations versus reality. Had you previously told him how important the day was to you?
I found my first one very emotional and certainly a milestone I wanted celebrated… whilst my partner went to a lot of effort it wasn’t what I had hoped for? I felt ungrateful but let down in ways too. I didn’t say anything as he showed he cared in his way.

Toby’s ??

but yes a farting card is a bit shit for first MD

I think you hit the jackpot with him 🤭 you are perfect for each other, congrats 👏

Oh, and It might be good practice for when you may be a chavvy single mum this time next year, and have a toddler running around while you mix with all the other single mums 😀🤣