Do you give mothers day card to your mother in law?

[Bettyboops1]

Just curious. There was a post on here the other day where OP did not know if she would give her MIL a mothers day card after MIL cut her off. The reply’s seemed to be more focused on peoples astonishment that OP gave her MIL a mothers day card in the first place, and wondering why her children gave their grandmother a mothers day card. I personally give every year, she is DH mum , and I encourage my DC to write a mothers day card to their grandma plus a gift from myself and DH and a gift from the children. I thought this was really normal, but reading the post the other day it is apparently scoffed upon and wife work nonsense? Thoughts? Whats the norm?

I never sent her one when DH was alive. Left that to him mostly although I sometimes picked one up for him if I was in the card shop. However I now send her one as DH was her only son and its a kindness to a very elderly bereaved mother and doesnt cost me much.

Nope, she’s not my mother. DH is perfectly capable of getting his own card/present for his mother. We also don’t do anything from our DS to either of his grandmothers because, again, neither of them are his mother.

I used to buy one for MIL when I bought for DM....but DH never bothered before me. MIL used to pointedly thank me for it 🙂.
In the first couple of years I signed it for both of us but eventually he got the idea!

I give my mum a card from me, DH and DC.
DH gives his mum a card from him, me and DC
We get both flowers or another gift.

I'm not sure I understand your post.

Mine has died but I never did, DH did as it was hi mum (in the same way that he wouldn't send one to my mum). I suppose if it looked like he might forget, I would buyone for him to give her.

It never occurred to me that I would.

You do, you managed to answer it anyway :) It just struck me as odd that a-lot of people on the post mentioned the other day seemed to be horrified at the thought of of a DIL buying her MIL a mothers day card, and couldn’t understand that grandchildren gave their grandmother a mothers day card as well whereas I thought it was e normal

No but my DH buys one for my mum. She’s more of a mum to him than his own mum.

No, DH sorts that out. I never did anything for my Gran. That was up to my Mum and Uncle.

In the years when my own Mother had died, I was divorced but very close to my then ex-MIL I gave her a card on Mother's Day. It said that I felt she cared for me in the same way a Mother would and that I appreciated her. I suppose it just felt like a good day to say something like that. She appreciated it. It was only a couple of years.

I'm not horrified OP - but you totally don’t need to buy your MIL a card. Does your DH buy your mum a card?

We used to send mother's day cards to both mums and just change which name went first. When the children came along we did cards to grandma from them and now I get them from my grandchildren and I love it. We did similar for father's day as well.

DH buys his mum one and organises flowers. She’s his dm.

We always sent a joint one, signed by both of us. (I bought it, put the stamp on, posted it.....🤣).

my mum died before myself and DH were married so I’ve always given to MIL from the both of us and one from the children for their grandmother

My DH always adds my name to the card and gift he buys his mum.

If my DH was no longer alive I would, but otherwise it's his mum so he gets her card. I sort my mum's out. They are both written as from us both and the kids

DH buys all the cards for mothers day with the kids help in choosing (mine from him, mine from kids, his mum's and my mum's) - makes sense as he is the one out buying cards.

It has never crossed my mind to get a mothers day card for MIL. That's DH's job because she's his mum.

No, that’s for my H to do.

I often buy the card and husband signs from both of us and the kids. Sometimes he’ll buy the card. I wouldn’t write it unless he was incapacitated!

Ah, sorry you lost your mum. So your DH doesn’t buy the card, you do?

No, but I buy the one my DH gives her because he believes her when she tells him "don't bother", and then she'd ends up with nothing (3 sons 🙄) so I get a nice one to post and he buys flowers and cake on the way to see her.
I only get one for my mum. Used to for my aunty who was like a second mum to me but she died a few years ago.

Mine generally does buy the card for my mum but I do the writing - saves me a trip to the shops. I'll do the same at fathers day - buy one for DH's dad (or at least offer) because in that case I'm the one already buying cards.

I don’t - however DH sends one to my stepmum (who I call mum). But he’s known her since he was 17 and they spend a lot of time together, so it makes sense for him to do so