To let dd self initiate potty training?

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Any other way seems laden with disaster.

Gave it a try yesterday and today; yesterday wasn’t too bad, today she just had seven accidents (at nursery)

I am thinking leave it until she initiates it.

You aren't giving it a try if you sent her to nursery?
You need to actually take some time to potty train your own child rather than leaving it to her!

She isn't going to show initiative.There are some things you need to show her.It will be easier if you do it in the summer or when it's warmer..
There are books on how to do it.

@marcyhermit I’m not leaving it to nursery, but she does go twice a week and I can’t really call in sick because I’m potty training her, can I?

She kept asking me to change her nappy yesterday and so I encouraged the potty. At first she refused but she then went on it. Yesterday wasn’t too bad but today was a disaster. I can’t not send her and nursery were fine about it (I rang up yesterday and asked what I should do.)

I think she will. She won’t get to four and be wanting nappies.

Have you seen the stats about the shockingly high number of kids to start reception in nappies?

Presuming you don’t want that, you do actually need to do some parenting…

How old is she?

I’ve never potty trained a child (mine is very young) but I am planning to take a week off work when it’s time to. I can’t imagine it’s easy to change your toileting habits overnight.

Pretty much the only time mine is ever without a nappy is in the bath he probably thinks it’s part of him!

You need a few days to run at it head on - we did it over Christmas when both parents were off for a solid block and we were able to crack it. She’s not going to initiate it herself but she might reach a point when she responds better. How old?

No this is why kids are going to school in nappies because parents think they should wait until the child initiates it. You need to book a week of work preferably in the summer.

Why would you call in sick?
You take some time off to potty train, at least do 4 full days of training at home before you send her to nursery in pants.
Of course it was a disaster to send a child who hasn't been potty trained to nursery without a nappy. I'm not sure what you expected your child to do?

Not sure why you are posting if you are disagreeing with other posters who are telling you, you need to be proactive. Kids naturally resist this so you gently persist. There will be more bad days than good at the start but you keep going because like everything with toddlers, its repetition and habit.

You need to take time off, it's crap but it's the only way.

To be blunt OP a lot of kids really don't care about sitting in their own waste. To be honest even as a fully trained adult I find it a pain when I've got to stop what I'm doing and take myself to the toilet. They won't always self initiate, you have to be the parent here and take responsibility.

How old is your dd op?

It does take time, I've just took it very slowly with my 2.5 year old son, he was just turning two when we started. He's a master now. Think bigger picture.

Get a star ⭐ chart too.

How old is she? Wait till Easter when you have a long weekend or book a Monday/Friday off work.

Potty training takes time.

Nursery usually helps.

It all depends on how old she is. If she has just turned 2 then yes it's fine to wait, if she is 3 and shows no interest then you need to initiate it

Hahaha, yes she may. I had a nightmare pottery training DS he was over 4 1/2 before he finally got it or was finally preswaded into it. Had to have help from the health visitor and GP, they don't all just suddenly decide they don't want to wear nappies (he has no SEN before anyone asks).

I'd already potty trained DD so he wasn't my first either. You do actually have to spend time training them, if she had a bad day today it doesn't mean she can't do it. Being at nursery was probably distracting, which is fine but accidents are to be expected to start with.

Take a weeks annual leave and potty train your kid. How lazy not to.

It is completely normal to have lots of accidents at first, it’s a hard skill to learn. You’ll need to carve out a few days at home with her to really give it a go though, agree with PPs that sending her to nursery isn’t really potty training - especially sending her in on day 2. We’ve day trained DS now, I was really worried about how it was going to go as he has an expressive speech delay but he’s been brilliant. We did the Oh Crap method (minus shaming any accidents, which we were just matter of fact about). First couple of days were rough, but he soon got it. Just need to night and nap train him now but he’s almost there as it is to be honest, 9 times out of 10 his training pants are dry in the morning now.

Easter is coming. Take that time to get it done. Bribery is the way

I was a nanny for a child who had been left until 5, waiting for her to show initiative. She was very happy in nappies. Modern nappies are so good at wicking away the wet feeling that they are far more comfortable than wet pants.

How old is she? How’s she going to ‘self initiate’? Do you just mean waiting until she shows interest?

I think the myth that if they don't crack it within a day or have accidents that they're not ready is a very harmful one.

Some kids absolutely do if their parents aren’t trying

She is two and eight months.

If we get to a couple of months before reception and she still isn’t trained I’ll be sure to do some parenting. Until then I guess she’ll potty train when she’s ready, I can’t force her to do it and she was refusing at nursery.

I don’t think she is going to potty train unless she actually wants to. If she doesn’t want to then she won’t. That’s what’s been happening today; she’s holding it in when on the potty and wetting herself as soon as she’s come off it.

I am a teacher so I can’t just take leave. Revision classes mean I can’t just take a week off at Easter either. I imagine once she decides to do it it will be fast as she ca obviously control it.