Nursery teacher dating my sons dad

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So it's come to light that my sons dad is in a relationship with his nursery key worker. The nursery are also aware and have said they don't have to do anything about it. My son is with her 5 days a week in close proximity and I feel like they are not listening to my safeguarding concerns and have held back information from me.

Would you move your child?

Nursery workers don’t start at 21 they start at 16
At 21, you know exactly what you’re doing.
I was in a managerial role at 19.
I realised they’re a bit slow on the uptake these days but they’re not that dim and she’s thinking with her vagina.

@Mosman2020 I'm afraid you're incorrect. Perhaps Google it if you don't believe the legal professionals.

@Mosman2020 See image.

The nursery not communicating would be my biggest concern.

I'd ask for my child to have a different key worker because of this. You need to be able to talk to your child's key worker, and at the moment you can't.

Is she not allowed a relationship at 21 then?

Not with that guy, no.

if she wants to remain in the posts that she’s in
People like her are dangerous because they’re thinking with their fanny and that makes them easily manipulated into making bad decisions. She’s shown her hand now she’s shown herself to be incapable of making good choices. She can’t work around children. I’d fire her and I would tell everybody why she’d been fired.
It’s not safe

In life generally you can do whatever the fuck you want there might be some consequences but you can make a decision to keep your child safe
If he wants to go to court that’ll take 3 to 6 months to get in front of a judge and a judge will go oh dear what a sad story.

Wow that sounds like an awkward situation to be in. The issue is that she's running away from you- you need to be able to communicate with his key teacher so they should give him another teacher who will talk to you. I don't think I would move him at 4 because he's almost finished there anyway so no point transitioning somewhere else close to school time.

If she literally runs away, then you write to them and say I have recently expressed some concerns about the care of my son and his removal from the nursery site without my consent. Additionally to this I am unable to discuss concerns with his key worker as she refuses to engage with me and avoids me. To be clear, your staff’s personal relationships outside of the work place are not my concern, but your nurseries ability to care for my child while you have responsibility for them absolutely is. I am requesting a change of key worker to someone who is happy to discuss my child with me, and if there are any further breaches of policy re my child’s location or informing me I will be forced to make a formal complaint. Continued policy breaches in key safety areas such as whether a child is on site are a risk to my child’s safety and as a parent that’s the worst possible risk. Please advise re my new childcare key worker.

and if in a conversation just say compassionately my only focus here is the care of my child. However if you have a good relationship with key worker you might look out for her as I don’t see any positive outcomes for a 21 yo who is in a relationship with my ex.

Just a small point that isn’t what unconscious bias is - I mention it in case you are going to use that terminology with the nursery.

@Mosman2020 Thanks for those wonderful words of legal wisdom. How long have you been a family court barrister?

For as long as you have 🙄

@Mosman2020 I think that's rather unlikely.* *

Which is why I’m guessing no one will allow you to manage people. Ever.

I mean, on one hand if he has a nice relationship with her she can look out for him.

OTOH it probably does feel a bit ‘incestuous’ If they split up that could be hard on him.

My friend was dating a man whose son she got close to and later when she found out that she was working at the same school he was in (after they split) she says it was awkward.

Unluckily for you and many more I not only manage people but I own the business as well 🤑