To be jealous of my work colleague?

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My work colleague is the same age as me. She has two gorgeous children and a third on the way. She is very attractive, confident and popular. However her behaviour kind of grates on me. It’s like she believes that the world revolves around her. She doesn’t treat me particularly nicely. She recently bought drinks for her and my other colleague but didn’t offer me one, when we were on a team night out (just the three of us). I am not as senior as her and I think she feels above me.

I am the bottom rung of the ladder, so the only person that seems to see this side. In fairness, at other times, she’ll be nice to me.

I struggle financially, whereas this lady is well off and can be quite braggy to me about her lifestyle and luxury holidays. I feel envious, and almost annoyed. I feel like karma needs to do a better job of ensuring people who treat others as subservient, shouldn’t get to have these picture perfect lives.

I know I am BU. But I just want things to seem fairer.

OP, you say you want to feel pleased for her and not jealous. You don't need to feel that invested in her either way, most people just feel indifferent towards work colleagues, usually because they are focused on their own lives. The way you describe her is a bit OTT. What does 'gorgeous children' mean? They are just kids, they probably have tantrums, cause her worries etc just like any other normal kids.

I would say try not to be too focused on her life as you don'treally know it. What is going on in yours that you are excited about? What changes might you make to feel good about yourself?

It's not 'unfair'. She has her life and you have yours.

Op just remember manners cost nothing if she cannot even hold the door for you then just ignore her don’t go for drinks with her why would you want to spend your time with her she might as well be your enemy. Also you don’t have to be happy for her. Op just concentrate on your own life. Op she’s a bitch and you don’t need toxicity in your life just be polite in work then forget about her she’s not worth it. People like her thrive on belittling people rise above her.

She sounds like a childish jerk. I would not like being around her either. Just ignore that as much as you can and think about happier things, if you can. I don't think you're jealous. Some people are just annoying. Her life is likely not all sunshine and roses anyway. And who care if her kids are "gorgeous" and she's "attractive" - that's subjective and meaningless! You have your own stuff to feel great about!! Good luck, I know it's hard to be around someone like that!