Can i actually be charged for this ??

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My mother (I’ve been NC for years she has instructed DB to tell me) has informed me that when she dies

1. I will receive no inheritance (sister gets the house DB gets the money)
2. I will be expected to help clear the house for my sister to move in and if I don’t I will be charged a clearance / skip fee!

There’s no obligation for me to do this and they can’t charge me? Apparently if I refuse they’ll say it’s my stuff so I’m liable ???

What do your siblings think about this? Unless you are estranged from them also, I can't imagine they would carry this through.

I’m NC with sister and although I do speak to DB it’s quite strained .

I dont think they'd have a leg to stand on. Best just ignore it. Pretty rubbish to treat you like this and think they are just trying to get a reaction.

Also and im not sure why or what the relevance is but she also specified for DB to tell me that when she does die I will not be informed immediately that they will wait at least 48 hours as they will need to ‘do official things’ before I’m made aware ??

I think you need to initially have a conversation with your siblings. Obviously we do not know the reasons for the estrangement.

If these items are in your mother's house surely they'd be assumed to be your mother's belongings? If you're not inheriting the house or the belongings or any money I don't see how they could claim they belong to you, nor how anyone could make you pay for clearance?

Getting in her last licks then?

Hope you've kept a record of what's been going on. I doubt they'll follow through and I'd be telling brother dearest to fuck off as well.

No verbal conversations anymore. Everything in writing.

I highly doubt any of this is enforceable though but I'd check anyway with a solicitor and see if there's any way of protecting yourself now.

It's more probable that your mother wants you to be distressed.

Just refuse to pay. Unless you have a ton of your stuff which has been left there, and which they can prove is yours, you obviously would have no liability despite her crazy ideas. And if you did they'd have to take you to court to enforce it if you refused to pay, which is wildly unlikely as well.

Ignore, and be glad you're already NC.

This is a complete nonsense on their part OP.

Tell them to whistle for the skip fees. Your mother's estate can place no legal obligations on you.

It's just a way of getting to you. You can safely ignore it and any future attempts to extract money / labour from you.

It was due to emotional and physical abuse that I was subjected to (my siblings weren’t) . I don’t want any inheritance but I just don’t want a bill for clearance fees as I think that’s totally unfair . I’m confused about the 48 hour delay to tell me when she has died. ?

There's literally nothing. It sounds purely like a vindictive attempt at sticking the knife in.

I know that she is in poor health as DB has in the last few months called me if she has been in hospital after she’s been discharged back home I’ve said to him it’s not necessary to let me know .

It’s nothing but vindictive. Just be glad you are already NC!

Nope.

Sounds like your mother is putting the boot in. House clearance costs come from the estate.
Instructing someone not to tell you until after 48 hours has elapsed is just spiteful. When someone dies the executor has 5 days to register the death so no idea where she's getting 48 hours from. She may assume that she'll be moved to a funeral director etc but that's not anything to do with official paperwork. Sometimes registering the death takes longer due to coroner involvement, you can't be stopped from attending a funeral though obviously family dynamics might make it difficult to know the information. Ignore it.

I’d tell them to do one. Fuckers

Again, this is a nonsense. I promise. I work adjacent to the area of probate. There is nothing "official" in the first 48 hours that is important.

It's a nonsense mechanism of control. It means nothing. They are trying to get to you. Ignore it.

Unless the contents of the house are willed to you, you definitely won't be legally obliged to pay to clear them out. I wouldn't mention that to DB, in case mother changes her will to make the contents yours, though.

I wouldn't discuss any of this further with them, just tell DB that you are not interested in Mother and her shenanigans. He is enabling her to continue her abuse of you.

How utterly poisonous and awful. I don't think it's legally possible for someone to carry out this action?

I can only assume then that they don’t want to lose anything from the estate so want to try and charge me ! To maximise their gains

It's about control. Your parent is trying to stick the knife in to hurt you. Information control and forcing contact, both designed to unbalance you emotionally.

It's manipulative and cruel designed to upset you.

If you are in any way worrying about the house clearance issue speak to Citizens Advice and see what they say. I suspect the answer will be you have no liability whatsoever but a formal response may give you peace of mind.

As for them, I would just grey rock this attempt to hurt you and steel yourself quietly with facts. Don't give them the response they are looking for.

If she willed them to me would I be liable then ? I literally don’t want anything at all

I’d be asking your brother why he is bothering you with this nonsense. There’s no legal or rational basis for either assertion. But hey, if they choose to wait 48 hours, that’s what they choose.

I would be inclined to tell them not to worry about the 48hours as you’re not interested. How horrid for you. This is a mean thing to say and you can’t be charged if you have nothing that belongs to you in the house.

I don't think they could bill you for services carried out on someone else's house where it's not your stuff any more than a random person could...especially if you're not inheriting. Isn't it the same as receiving a bill for work done on a neighbour's house instead of your own and just saying "sorry this isn't mine"?