Son won't move out!

[OneGreenPoster]

My son broke up with his gf in December (I posted here about it) he moved in with us. He keeps saying he'll find somewhere soon
But he isn't even looking, he has a good job and savings so can easily afford it

How long is reasonable until we tell him he has to go?

Why does he have to go? Is he causing you any issues by living there? Is he contributing financially? Do you not get on?

Is he inconveniencing you in some way? It seems very callous to want him to leave so quickly.

If he causes no issues and oays his way why does he have to go. Could he be saving up fir a mortgage?

How old is he?

Since December isn’t that long! What is bothering you about him being there?

How long is reasonable until we tell him he has to go?

Ask him. It’s bizarre that you post on here rather than talk to him.

December 2025? Why are you so desperate to get rid of him?

It really hasn’t been that long, and he’s your son. What is your problem?

Do you have the space to accommodate him, is that the issue? Can’t imagine being that bothered by it, but margins vary of course.

I can remember your thread @OneGreenPoster. It’s been a bit of a rollercoaster for all of you hasn’t it?

Is there a chance that he needs time with you to recover? Would he be willing to go for a coffee with you? You could them discuss his plans?

He may want to stay with you for say 6 months to give himself time to recover a bit from the breakup.

I always feel it’s much easier to talk to my DC about their plans or any little blips on neutral ground

Oh bless him. You're son had a break up and came home and you're wanting to kick him out 2 months later, why?

For me personally (won’t sit well with many) I love my son, and I actually like him too! So long as he is pitching in with chores and finances, he can come back any time forever.

Do you not get on?! Or have you no room?

It’s only February. Give him some time for gods sake!

Totally agree, got two 30+ Yr olds with me at the moment who are welcome to stay as long as they want 🤷

Why does he have to go? Some loving support would be a kinder option for sure.

Charge him rent incrementally increasing to make it uncomfortable for him to stay too long

Bloody hell. With parents like this who needs enemies. No wonder people go no contact if this is how their parents treat them.

Mine didn't even do much of the pitching in.
But he wasn't a drain and so darn lovely we didn't care.

I love having my adult ds around. He could come back anytime. What’s the problem?

I stayed with my dps for a year following a break up in my late 20s. I'd rented my house out to move in with ex and offered to give my tenants notice but my dad didn't want me living there alone (not the best area)

I can't imagine they'd have pushed me out, I feel sorry for your son!

Why do you want to kick him out?

You sound heartless, poor guy

Jesus why would you even think like this. This is an example of a very uncaring parent.

This. Why do you want him out? Is your dh the stepdad?

I would start looking at places and showing them to him. Hes a grown man he needs his own space. Adult children living with parents doesn't work. I get on with my parents but I wouldn't want to live with them for more then a few weeks as an adult.