DH hid betting windfall

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DH and some of his mates have a weekly betting group where they pick football teams and put them in one big bet where the potential returns are high. He has always said they never win and that the most they’ve ever got back was £120 each.

I have become close with one of his friends partners in the past year or so as our youngest is in the same school year. I saw her at soft play this afternoon, we were discussing our half term weeks and she said they’d gone away as a family. I said we looked and that the prices were really high so we couldn’t find a suitable deal.

She said they only managed it as they (the men) had the ‘win the other week’ and this covered it. I blurted out something which obviously showed I was surprised, as she immediately tried to move the subject on.

I spoke to DH when I got home who confirmed this win. He said he didn’t want to feel he had to spend it on ‘us’ so kept it to himself.

He knew how much the kids and I would have loved a few days away and could have easily put some towards it.

I’ve had the odd unexpected windfall during our relationship and some of it has always been used for his benefit too.

AIBU to feel a bit upset by this?

I heard a similar story years ago! The couple had savings for a deposit on a house. He said he loaned it to a mate in trouble but never saw the money again. The truth came out when she eventually left him 3 kids later! He had gambled and lost the whole lot! Please OP don't let him play you for a fool!

You're also deflecting as well OP. I took his gifts then shagged him. Then trying to say people are trying to grudge you fun - when it's clear you just capitulated and are just tolerating his rotten behaviour.

Did you tell him how crap he made you feel?

He must have some wonder dick if he can make everything ok just with a shag, I bet he's very pleased with himself and laughing at you OP.

I think you read my mind there.

Was going to say the same myself. Think his vile friend will be laughing too 🤢
I’d actually feel like I’d properly had the piss taken out of me good and proper. Imagining dh and his mate sitting around drinking and slagging op off and telling her he wanted a divorce!

My response would have been, crack on, best thing that’s come out of your mouth since all the BS you’ve been spouting!

Won himself the admiration of his mates whom he'll regale with a colourful account of his coup.

Sorry for my cynicism but there are too many inconsistencies for the story to make sense, and he doesn't seem nice enough to threaten divorce over covering for a friend because of 300 quid

Last bit was sarcasm, of course..

I am starting to think the entire post was a wind up.

Ok. This is not a real post. This must be written by a man.

Any self respecting female/mother would have a vag as dry as the Sahara desert after her so called husband had been caught lying, talking about buying a prostitute, talking about reigning women in and socialises with other men who talk about tonguing fart boxes.

But yeah, a good bottle of wine and your back enjoying your "marriage"

So he turns up with a barely plausible explanation and a some flowers, perfume and wine, and suddenly everything is forgiven after a tipsy shag?

Wow. That’s classic love bombing. Good luck.

I don't think OP is the only one being taken for a ride.

Right. I think you’ve over-egged your little story now.

OP's last post sounded like blokey bants. Oh dear.

Yeah. That kind of treatment would make your vagina clamp shut

Comparing with my own experience, purfum, wine etc and then 10 years later action replay.
Please see a solicitor to know where you stand.

I’d imagine he’s just using it to cover the losses which don’t come in. Most gamblers break even, if they are lucky. So it’s not much of a ‘win’

😆 just caught up with this thread. He is totally full of bs . Probably planned the txts to back up his explanation of the money. Even if that was true his behaviour and how he speaks/treats you is like garbage.
Fab example to set kids . And he knows some perfume and wine and he is sorted.

He spent 500 quid of the win on a day out with his mates

Has to be

Sounds like you think it’s all under the bridge and fine

either This is all made up and well done for fooling many of us or you are that desperate to sty with a possible cheating liar

My first thought was him and his horrible friend will have a great laugh about how he got away with it and indeed a shag too!! I'd says he been bragging about how he's pulled a blinder.

OP's final post definitely written by the husband! He must be feeling like the cock of the walk right now for getting away with it with a bag of toys and some perfume!

Why would you let your horrible husband come on here and write something like that? A bit of dick and all is forgiven?

The Op may not have let him as such, he may have accessed her phone.

I don't suppose we will ever know, but that last reply was so unlike any other reply from the Op.

Well I hope if he sees it this thread he might realise that he's a rotten slimy misogynist dick. Having said that she's not been back on either