Made to feel uncomfortable

[Scottishlassie10]

Now I’m all for people wearing what they want but I do think there is a time and a place. My husband was in the health club last night relaxing in the jacuzzi when a group of young women in their early 20s wearing bikinis that left little to the imagination (think thong bottoms and boobs barely covered) started parading around. They came into the jacuzzi which I know they’re entitled to do, however 2 sat next to him and 2 directly facing. It’s quite a big jacuzzi so they had no need to sit where they did. He was the only male in. He felt he had no option to leave as this made him feel quite uncomfortable. Now I may be unreasonable in my thinking but I do think if the shoe was on the other foot and a male was to strut around the poolside in a thong or a group of men where to sit in an empty jacuzzi in close proximity to a female complaints would be made.

You don't need to feel sexy at a waterpark. That's fucking creepy to be honest.

You would think so too, if it was a man saying it.

Attractive and sexy are two different things. You do seem to have a lot of problems with words, don't you? Gets you all in a tizzy when you can't make them mean what you want them to mean.

What's wrong in covering up private bits? Why is it seen as empowerment and freeing to flaunt body parts to the world?

So could your husband. So if it's not a problem for women feeling actually threatened, why is it an issue for him not liking their swimwear?

Indeed.

Of course! How dare he describe his experience! What was he thinking?! If he really had to describe his own experience, he should have at least submitted a draft to the committee first, so you could make sure that he wasn't using any language that actually described what he experienced.

What a wanker! Men are just scum, aren't they? Having experiences and talking about them. And women! Describing their husband's experiences? Know your place, woman! It should always be on the side of women calling your husband a pervert, obviously! How could she not know that?!

I think your my favourite poster on this thread 😂

You seem to be able to put into words what is sensible and normal.

I really hope some of these posters get a bare hairy bum in their face soon 😂😂😂

Men aren't scum no. My dh is lovely. He'd never describe women as parading or strutting, nor describe breast rubbing. If he felt awks he'd just leave, no dramas or women shaming.

All I think is that a man (maybe middle aged) sees young women wearing next to nothing sit next to him in the jacuzzi. He feels uncomfortable being around scantily clad women that aren't his loving wife. He feels uncomfortable and leaves.

Why is it creepy?

Okay, seeing as though you are such an expert on language why is it okay to feel attractive at a water park but creepy to feel sexy? What is the specific distinction between attractive and sexy? And why does location matter?

He/she is entertaining I'll give you that.

He just described what they did. They did it. He's relaying it to his spouse.

In a sneery, sexist shit way.

Doesn't read that way to me.

Really? Why would you hope someone gets a big hairy bum in their face? The girls in the first post didn't shove their bum in the OPs husbands face

He did to walk away.

It’s ok to call it parading if they are though. We weren’t there!! We don’t know how they walked. As with all threads on here we go with what we’re given.

how do you know they weren’t parading?! I’ve been to spas and some women (and men) have a certain swagger or strut. Doesn’t mean anything as such - but it happened. Some women walk in such a way that makes their bum jiggle more!

if you saw them and they were walking normally then you can say they weren’t parading. But you weren’t there.

So what's the problem? What's the point of your thread?

You think? You think women have never been assaulted in a public space?

Fuck knows at this point

Yes. And since you think that's all that needs to be said of women in public spaces being intimidated, why does your husband, who walked because he didn't like their clothes, such a victim? Why was this story all double standards and Man Hating (TM) and female supremacy and and and...? Women can just walk away and that's the end of it, right?

Because some posters think it’s ok for some women to wear thongs with their bum cheeks out and tiny triangle bikini tops when in a swimming pool with kids. They have chastised a child who said it was gross when she was faced with arses in her face. The posters who are supportive and promoting wearing this attire around children have no issue - so I’d like to know their reaction when it happens to them.

Why not have jacuzzis. One for men, one for women?

I don't think he owns this leisure centre. I could be wrong.

Apparently there's double standards or some such. The men feel intimidated and threatened by thongs and bum cheeks apparently and don't mention the parading and breast rubbing lest the poor op's dh has a flashback.

That’s what OP’s husband did. He didnt complain to a member of staff or mutter under his breath as he was leaving so that they could hear, huffing and puffing. And then he described his experience to his wife when he got home. He is allowed to do that. No drama. None of those women were made to feel ashamed by him.