Made to feel uncomfortable

[Scottishlassie10]

Now I’m all for people wearing what they want but I do think there is a time and a place. My husband was in the health club last night relaxing in the jacuzzi when a group of young women in their early 20s wearing bikinis that left little to the imagination (think thong bottoms and boobs barely covered) started parading around. They came into the jacuzzi which I know they’re entitled to do, however 2 sat next to him and 2 directly facing. It’s quite a big jacuzzi so they had no need to sit where they did. He was the only male in. He felt he had no option to leave as this made him feel quite uncomfortable. Now I may be unreasonable in my thinking but I do think if the shoe was on the other foot and a male was to strut around the poolside in a thong or a group of men where to sit in an empty jacuzzi in close proximity to a female complaints would be made.

It’s about him being made to feel uncomfortable and how he had no option to leave which any decent man would. I have no problem with what he said.

Well then, I apologise. I got you mixed up with other pp. Sorry.

He left the jacuzzi and left them to it. Good on him. Don't think he did anything wrong.

So what if he felt uncomfortable. Those are his feelings to deal with.

Ah man I give up. They can wear what they like. My daughter is allowed to tell me it made her feel uncomfortable- her words ‘gross’. It’s a normal developmental stage. To her, all the ‘butts’ and ‘boobs’
she saw on a trip to a family waterpark were in her words ‘gross’
Maybe she had a point?

I already offered an understanding statement bellow this one...

No, you seem to have trouble understanding.
They were wearing a bikini. They weren’t naked.

Yes I’m finding that out! Seems that men are the devil incarnate 😂

all the man haters would be out in force because of course no woman has ever used her assets to beguile or intimidate a man ever.

The bar for being a Man Hater (TM) drops lower every single day. Last night a whole load of us were Man Haters (TM) because we didn't let some bloke get away with using disgusting language about women ("slappers" and so on) without comment and now you're a Man Hater (TM) for... actually I don't even know what point this person is trying to make. I don't think anyone on here has suggested no woman has ever tried to entice a man. That would be even more ridiculous than whatever the fuck this post is. The pount is, evil bikini jacuzzi women MAN HATERS (TM).

Makes you wonder how men manage to rule the world, what with the limitless power of bikini Man Haters (TM).

MAN HATERS (TM), SWARMING TO A JACUZZI NEAR YOU. IN THE JACUZZI, NO ONE CAN HEAR YOU SCREAM!!!!

You don't think an arse is a private body part? I do.

I guess if you’ve taught your child to consider the female body ‘gross’ that’s your look out.

As is your is your right.

funny , isnt it....boobs and the balls of the bums are what really arouse men and lesbians and here we are 😂

Yep. Just a chance to attack another OP.

oh wait, it should be a vagina and a nipple only that will arouse a man

As do women.

So you don't agree? So if you were teaching kids about privacy and consent, you'd say arses are fair game, no different than elbows or knees? Certainly not 'gross' or uncomfortable to be a child surrounded by naked arses?

That's not the case as far as I'm concerned. Some people have been very strong with their opinions but it seems like the biggest issues have been the fact that what the girls were wearing was described and the fact that they were washing themselves in the shower in a certain way.

It surely doesn't need to be one thing or the other. I have had some horrible experiences at the hands of men (assault). But I don't think men are the devil incarnate and to be fair if you post on here you are going to get a huge mix of opinions that won't necessarily agree with yours. It happens on almost every thread

To be fair if I had a body that looked good in a skimpy bikini then I’d wear one!
how old is your husband, 12? I think he needs to grow up and have a word with himself

why? Why not older women Mid 50s inspire younger women to humility, chastity and respect

i have a 12 year old...I don't allow leggins in the crack or crop tops, yet all her class mates have been doing it from younger ages, encouraged by their mothers to even go to school with mini skirts practicing for secondary ...this nation is gone to batshit bonkers.

I have no issue with anyone disagreeing with my opinion. It would be a boring world if we all agreed. I do take issue though with my husband being labelled a perv, getting aroused etc. Surely the mere fact he removed himself proves otherwise.

The thing is, the OP has made a provocative post, using very loaded language, which some might struggle to believe to be a fair and accurate account of the situation.
The idea of a group of young women rubbing their bodies to deliberately be sexually provocative to a 60 year old man, does stretch credulity. So posters suspect the OP (or her husbands) to be coming from a place of anti woman bias.
This is excercebated by the OPs determination to make this about percieved double standards towards men, and imply men are equal victims of sexually predatory behaviour from women as vice versa. To try this on a forum dominated by women who know this isn't the case, is a bit insulting to intelligence for one thing. And the anti woman sentiments don't sit right with a lot of women, for another.
For this reason, the push back has inevitably been strong. But a dislike for and strong reaction to anti woman bias shouldn't be confused with hatred of men.

But he removed himself only AFTER watching them supposedly touch themselves in the showers. Like, has he not learnt to close his eyes or tilt his head or move in the jacuzzi...

Yeah, but we already have a world where women are judged and traduced and criticised and made responsible for everything, including your husband, so you don't need to worry about that.

It is in fact so much the case that anyone who doesn't think your husband is a victim of terrible sexual aggression because women existed in clothes he didn't like is a Man Hater (TM). Makes you wonder how they rule the world...