Will dr’s give me DD medical records

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DD is 15, she went to the doctors yesterday but won’t tell me why. I’m waiting for the morning rush to die down and then will ring the surgery and ask. If the receptionist can’t tell me, can I do a request for her medical records seeing as she’s a minor and I’m her parent? I only found out by accident so now I’m wondering how many other times she’s gone and not told me! Very very tempted to read her diary but that would be an invasion of her privacy.

But finding out why she went to the drs would also be an invasion of her privacy!

She is entitled to her privacy, so no they won’t tell you.

I don’t think they can tell you anything. Surely the best thing is to sit her down and talk to her properly. Don’t break her trust.

Is this a joke?! Tempted to read her diary?!

I can see why she’s not confided in you!

Put your energy into spending time with her. Built trust and the environment for her to let in.

I have sat her down and she won’t tell me! She’s only 15! This thread isn’t about whether or not I SHOULD ring the drs, I just want to know if I CAN get her records as she’s a minor!

Unlikely: https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/gps/gp-services-for-someone-else-proxy-access/parent-and-guardian-proxy-access-for-children/

If you think reading her diary is an invasion of privacy, do you not think trying to see her medical records would be as well?

No, you can't.

Try to think back to when you were 15 - how would you feel if your mum were to do the same?

The GP would need to get your daughter's consent to share with you.

This has to be a joke or a reverse.

No of course they won’t tell you or give you any access, nor should they.

Work on rebuilding your relationship, not destroying it.

No they wont provide you with any information at 15. She will be considered compitant and allowed to not tell you. GP will have safgaurded. How did yiubfund out sge had been? Maybe if she tild yiubstart a gentle vonversatuin with her rather than invading her privacy.

I’m amazed that teenagers keep diaries anymore, what a lost art.

She’s a minor but she has the right to confidentiality. The practice will ask for her permission to share her records with you. If she doesn’t want to, they won’t.

no doubt she’s gone to get the pill or another form of contraception. It’s hard because at 15 they are still a child but they also need their privacy and if you find out and go behind her back she’s likely to never tell you anything or trust you again. I don’t envy you with the decision. The reception team won’t tell you what the appointment was about but I think because she’s 15 you can write and ask for a copy of her records.

No you can’t. As an older child she can be judged by the GP to have capacity to make her own decisions and you cannot over rule that just because she is under 18.

Contraception?

When my dd attemptd suicide we found a note book. Wasn't really hidden like she wanted it found. No regrets looking through it.
But I wouldn't have in your shoes..
Your dd is allowed to seek medical advice without you. Your relationship needs work if she isn't telling you why.

I’m not going to comment on whether you should or not, but I have access to my 13 year olds medical records - she knows about it and is happy with this, but the doctors didn’t ask for her consent. (It makes it easier to check test results, etc.)
eta: I got the permission when she was 12

NHS website says as she's 11+, she would need to give consent.

I think you seriously need to rethink your attitude on this. She's probably gone to get on the pill or something.

Do you have concerns about her?
Is she acting up, staying out, depressed?
I would hazard a guess the visit to the doctors was to arrange birth control, does she have a boyfriend?

No, I don't think they will. When my DD was 13 I called the surgery to see if I could get access to her NHS app because I was waiting for the papers for her autism diagnosis and I thought they might be on there first - they asked why I wanted it and said that they didn't give access to parents for teenagers medical details for privacy reasons. Which I didn't have a problem with at all, I really only wanted the diagnosis letter because the school were hassling me

It’s irrelevant what the reason was. We could list hundreds of things it could be.

Simple answer no you cannot after the age of 12 she is entitled to go to doctor alone you cannot demand private records .well in britian you can't

If she is deemed to have capacity to make her own decisions, you won't be given access.

Nor should you be.