Will dr’s give me DD medical records

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DD is 15, she went to the doctors yesterday but won’t tell me why. I’m waiting for the morning rush to die down and then will ring the surgery and ask. If the receptionist can’t tell me, can I do a request for her medical records seeing as she’s a minor and I’m her parent? I only found out by accident so now I’m wondering how many other times she’s gone and not told me! Very very tempted to read her diary but that would be an invasion of her privacy.

I did exactly the same …hope your dd is doing well now x

Your reaction to this is why she didn’t tell
you in the first place. You need to respect her privacy.

My mum was exactly like this, as a student she once opened a letter from the GP that I had redirected as I was between houses and then insisted she knew all the details. Let her own her own health and make it clear you’re there if she needs you.

You SHOULDN'T and you CAN'T. 🤷‍♀️

Thank goodness your daughter is allowed some privacy in her life, because with an intrusive parent like you, it's no wonder she's refusing to discuss things.

The answer to your question is No the doctors will Not give you any info.

Nope. If the doctor thinks she's competent to make decisions about her own health, they don't need to tell you anything.

Also, I can tell just from how this is written precisely why she didn't come to you in the first place.

No.

your daughter has almost certainly been assessed as gillick competent and able to consent to her own treatment.

Have a quick Google about Gillick competence op.

Your 15 year old daughter is old enough to seek medical advice herself, and her GP will absolutely not release any information to you. Why the fuck do you think they would?

Is this satire? Of course you cannot access her medical records. That would be worse than reading her diary and is illegal.

The answer is no how many more people need to say it before you understand

Well you fucked that up spectacularly, OP

You have no rights to any information.

Your best bet is to apologise, unequivocally. Tell her if she wants to talk about anything, you're here for her.

Mean it.

And don't fuck it up again.

Very very tempted to read her diary but that would be an invasion of her privacy

Oh good. At least you don’t want to invade her privacy.

No, you can’t do this.

If you are in England there is a legal principle called Gillick competence. If the doctor or practitioner thinks someone under 16 understands any medical problems they have and is able to make an informed decision about any potential treatments then they are legally obliged to keep their medical information as confidential as they would an adult's.

If you can demonstrate that your child is not (for developmental or mental health problems) competent to understand or decide, then you are entitled to see a child's records. Demonstrating this will require you to provide evidence of this incompetence. I'm not sure how that process works.

OTOH, if the practitioner has their own concerns about the child's competence they might seek her permission to keep you informed.

Given that she is 15 so soon will be 16 and 100% entitled to confidentiality regardless of perceived competence I wouldn't risk damaging your relationship by trying to force this issue. Instead focus on building a relationship of trust and understanding with her so she might feel able to confide in you.

Nope, not a chance

Three scenarios as to why she won’t confide in you.

1. on the pill
2. Pregnant
3. STD

Actually four - perhaps she is struggling with her sexuality. You should be pleased that for whatever reason she is adult enough to deal with it herself.

Very very tempted to read her diary but that would be an invasion of her privacy

If people have read this last sentence and are still believing this then 🤣🤪

It could be anything personal that she doesn't want to talk about.. uti, diarrhoea, backne.. anything!

Kindly your DD is becoming a young woman .At 15 she has a mind of her own and is allowed privacy .Whatever the issue, its between her and her Doc! I would back off . Tell her you are there for her and leave it at that.TBH you have more chance of her opening up on a drive or a days shopping! (BTW do not ask her on either of these ,it has to come from her)

No they won’t tell you and you won’t get her records.

not a chance. You don’t need to know of she chooses not to share the information with you.

YABU

Be assured, if there was a life-threatening health issue, including self harm, suicidal ideation and intent, the GP practice would consider this a safeguarding concern and parents/guardians would be informed and this is discussed with the under 16 year old patient

She must have had a reason for wanting to keep it private. Just keep up normal dialogue, show you are interested in her life and always want the best for her but do not pry. Definitely do not read the diary. I don't think the doctor should reveal anything about a confidential appointment and I don't think you should phone them.

Why on earth do you feel it's your right to know why she went to the GP? What is your fear here? How do you think you knowing is going to help in any way?

(For context: I have two 16 yo DD in case your response to my post was "clearly you don't understand what it's like to have a 15yo daughter ... " )

They shouldn’t give you info without her permission.

You might manage to skip through the net if you get someone who’s not paying attention to details.

There's a huge difference between 12 and 15!

Thank god they wouldn’t tell you.

I went to the GP when I was 15 to ask for the pill (mid 1990s).

He called my dad while I was in the room to tell him that I was there and what for.

That didn’t end very well for me and eroded my trust of Doctors for life.

Please leave her be. And I say that as someone with daughters myself.