Will dr’s give me DD medical records

[Funparsnip]

DD is 15, she went to the doctors yesterday but won’t tell me why. I’m waiting for the morning rush to die down and then will ring the surgery and ask. If the receptionist can’t tell me, can I do a request for her medical records seeing as she’s a minor and I’m her parent? I only found out by accident so now I’m wondering how many other times she’s gone and not told me! Very very tempted to read her diary but that would be an invasion of her privacy.

Don't do it OP, you might wreck your relationship with your d, let her speak to you when she wants to if in did she does.
I fell out with my m when I was 15 because she nosed into all aspects of my life and privacy, read my diary [knew she read it so didn't write anything interesting.
But it blew up one day after she tried to sit me down to talk about something and I was 17 I gave her full barrels and tell her she was so nosy, she'd hang around when I was talking rubbish with my mates on the phone / listen at the door when they visited. Check my handbag and rummage through my stuff. She cried and denied it all but I'd left markers and knew.
After that I moved in with another relative until i left home and the relationship with m never really recovered up until she died a few years back.

I sincerely hope not! She will be deemed to be Gillick-competent, and therefore entitled to confidentiality. You need to respect that, OP.

No. Over 13, I think, they are allowed to go to the gp unaccompanied. Unless she has signed a form giving you permission to liaise on her behalf you cannot access any of her data.

It’s frustrating, but she has a right to privacy.

You shouldn't and you can't.

I have a 16 yo DD and yes, it is a scary stage as they become more independent, but it is also necessary.

If she doesn't want you to know, you have no right to - she's not a little girl anymore and this is your new normal.

On the upside, you can be proud she's sensible enough to be seeking medical support for whatever the issue is.

No you won’t be told, as you shouldn’t. If you push this, it will likely damage your relationship

No, they won't tell you and no they won't give you her medical records.

If you are seriously concerned about your daughter's safety, you can express these concerns to the GP practice, which the doctor will consider.

I know you have sat her down and spoken to her and she would not tell you. Is there another family member she may confide in who could put your mind at rest? Dad, sibling, aunt, best friend?

Or if you are worried could speak to the welfare officer at her school to speak to her to make sure she is OK, but this again would be invasion of privacy and she may not want them to know.

And five - it's just something inconsequential like a verruca or a sore throat, but she's fed up of her mother meddling in her life and wants to keep something private.

If she's over 13 and doesnt consent then no they wont.

All children over 13 have to consent for their parents to access their medical records.

or 5. seeking help from authorities because she has an abusive home life…

OP sounds like my m, this is the sort of thing she used to try, demanding to know, crying and guilt tripping. I used to ignore it and walk off, it was amazing how quick the waterworks would stop. She even once said my 'behaviour would put her in - the local mental hospital at the time. I ignored that too as it was such a stupid thing to say.

Have you read her diary before? If you often try and pry into to her life this might be why she is not informing you about medical issues. I assume it is coming from a place of love and concern but trying to get her medical records is massively intrusive and is the sort of behaviour that would make her even more secretive.

I'm not sure I understand that website. (Usual NHS rubbish)

Is it suggesting that a parent or guardian can only get access if a child under 16 gives their consent, or is it saying that a parent or guardian can get access regardless of whether the child under 16 consents?

It doesn't seem to state what I thought was the legal position. (Although it might accurately state an erroneous NHS bureaucratic position...)

Wow, she's 15, leave the girl be. If she wanted to tell you or felt like she could tell you, she would.

No, you can’t.

And if you value your relationship with your daughter DO NOT read her diary.

My teen dd has some ongoing health issues which she wants my support and help managing. I was quite rightly sent out of the room so the dr could talk to her alone and check that it was indeed her choice to have me there and involved. The health questionnaire involves questions about whether or not she is active sexually the the dr straight up told me that I wouldn’t be given access to that by the surgery regardless of her consent to avoid any behinds the scene pressure and I think that is also a really good thing

Absolutely baffling why she won't talk to you... 🙄

You want to be working on your relationship with your daughter to get to a point where you are a trusted adult with whom she will share her problems.

She doesn't feel safe talking to you about personal matters right now. Snooping on her will make things worse.

"Children have the same legal rights over their data as adults. The GP surgery must get the child's consent before giving access to their online GP services, if the child is able to understand and make an informed decision. This is called having capacity.

Children aged 11 or over are usually considered to have the capacity to consent, or refuse access, unless for example they have a medical condition or learning disability that affects their understanding."

This is a verbatim quote from the website. OP's daughter is over 11, so absent a medical condition or learning difficulty that impacts on her capacity to consent, she will be allowed to refuse access to her medical records to her mum. Does that make it clearer?

It doesn’t matter what she’s seen the GP about, it’s not your information to have and she’s entitled to her own privity of person.

You need to have a think about why she hasn’t told you.

Why she feels she needs to keep something private.

Because you say you only found out by accident and there’s a world of difference between being 15 and wanting to test her emerging independence and not telling you she even went to the doctor.

Look at yourself and your behaviours.

Gillick competency has been around for 40 + years, can't believe you are asking here to be honest. I'd spend some time rebuilding my relationship with my daughter. I'd have been furious with my DM if she'd even attempted such a thing. I'd also have refused to tell her why I'd visited even if it was something inconsequential. And it would put me right off speaking to her if she'd been hassling me/reading my diary or ringing the drs

This

Why are you shouting, a quick Google search would have answered your question.

Seems clear to me. You need the child’s permission over the age of 11. If you have permission you automatically lose access at 16 but are able to set it up again with the child’s permission.

Some surgeries automatically cut off access at an age younger than 16. You can set it up again with permission from the child.

Unless the OP’s child has a learning difficulty that she hasn’t mr tilted it’s highly unlikely she’d be able to get access to a 15 year old’s record without permission.

Very unlikely
From 14 our GP considered DD "Gillick competent" and she had to give written permission for me to act on her behalf (her choice)

@Funparsnip
You have no rights at all to request to see her medical records. You've sat her down, she won't tell you.
Can't say I don't blame her as this reply you have written seems shouty and that you're raging there's nothing you can do. Take a step back and evaluate the bond between you and your daughter.............