Will dr’s give me DD medical records

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DD is 15, she went to the doctors yesterday but won’t tell me why. I’m waiting for the morning rush to die down and then will ring the surgery and ask. If the receptionist can’t tell me, can I do a request for her medical records seeing as she’s a minor and I’m her parent? I only found out by accident so now I’m wondering how many other times she’s gone and not told me! Very very tempted to read her diary but that would be an invasion of her privacy.

Gillick competence. No more needs to be said.

I think you should just be grateful she did go to the doctor. Whatever the reason for that was. It sounds like you don’t have a particularly close relationship and I wonder if that stems from your need to have such a high level of control? I’m not trying to be critical here but if you can work out why this has happened you can work on building things back up with her going forward.

It’s great that she’s taking responsibility for her health and making GP appointments for herself at that age, which many young adults struggle to do, in my experience.

As many have said, she has a right to confidentiality through Gillick competence principle. No, you can’t overrule her and nor should you try. You can call the GP but they will rebuff you and record your request.

I doubt it. At 15 she would be asked to consent before her private medical history was shared with you.

I understand you are worried about your daughter, but imagine the consequences if parents could demand this kind of information. How many teens would avoid speaking to their GP about sexual health issues or contraception if their mum could call up and find out.

Hopefully not. Everyone deserves privacy. You need to look at yourself and think why your daughter is to scared/ uncomfortable to talk to you

I asked for my DS’s as he is going on a summer camp abroad and it’s needed for the medical form. They just emailed it to me. He is also 15.

She doesnt want you to know, and based on your posts I can see why

When I wanted to add the children onto my NHS app at the GP, the one who was 13 at the time had to sign to say that was OK. The younger one I was just given access to.

That's quite alarming. Although if he's not seen a doctor since he was 11 or 12 it makes sense.

If this isn’t a wind up, you’re disgusting.

Jesus Christ on a bike OP. Stop wading in and leave her the hell alone.

This is a disgusting post. Of course you shouldn't invade her privacy like this. If she has made the appointment without telling you and hasn't disclosed it when asked, she doesn't want you to know. Butt out and try and build some trust with her if you want her to open up more.

Kids tend to confide in their parents if their privacy is respected. If their parents are controlling and invade their privacy they don't.

Absolutely this. OP, this must be very worrying for you but you could really damage your DD's trust in you if you go about this the wrong way. I'd have been livid if my parents had tried to go behind my back like this when I was 15, and I'd have definitely stopped telling them about health-related things.

FFS. No you can’t get her medical records. They’re not going to share with you because you’re nosey.

Jesus, leave her alone.

I’m surprised that some posters have been allowed access to their teenager’s medical records but I wonder if these were all boys. I would expect a GP to safeguard teen girls’ records due to the potentially serious consequences for the girl of parents finding out about contraception/STDs/pregnancy. I’m kind of surprised that we don’t have to show ID at the doctors when making an appointment or requesting info for forms

I think that your daughter would be deemed Gillick competent and therefore able to agree to any treatment that she wishes and as she is 15 it is unlikely that a GP would give you access to her notes, without her explicit approval. So no, you would not gain access... and on a personal note, I would say, nor should you.

Sorry you are in this situation OP. As she is 15, she is deemed gillick (however you spell that) competent, unless she has additional needs etc. But as a mum of a dd much younger than yours, i would 100% want to know too. I know i am going to get slated for this, i would sit her down and tell her that you are in this together and if things go wrong it will be you who will be helping her sort any mess out. So she better be truthful to you at the outset, if she is going to rely on you later on.

What the hell? Mind your own business! Unless she has complex special needs there is no reason at all that you need to know if or why she has been to the doctor if she doesn't want to share. You've asked her and she won't tell you, so get the message. Overbearing much. She isn't your property!

My experience is no.
My DS are 15 found a lump. I rang the drs for the appt but once at the drs DS was asked if it was ok for me to go in with him, and if it was ok for him to talk with in the room.
Drs should also not give out info it breaks GDPR.

Nothing wrong with wanting to know, but she needs to be able to respect that her daughter (for whatever reason) wants to keep that information private.

Sitting down and offering support and making it clear you’re a safe person to share with is great, but the threat of “she better be truthful with you” is a bit odd? Or what?

Overbearing controlling parents just produce sneakier kids who have trust issues. I’ll see them in therapy in a decade or so.

I think the answer is no you cannot, certainly not as of right.

A 15yo is 'Gillick Competent'.

I doubt that they'll even confirm she had an appointment. When I was a teacher we had a child we had concerns about who went missing one afternoon and said she had gone to the doctor's but we had concerns about where she actually went. I phoned the doctor on her info and they wouldn't even tell me she had had an appointment, so good luck finding out why!

You’re being really weird tbh.

Whatever it is, she went to the doctors about it. Leave her.

This.

She would have to consent to them telling you, which she won’t otherwise she would have just told you herself.