Husband told daughter to stop chewing so loudly in his ear

[Meg878o]

AIBU to be upset and angry about this comment my husband made to.our 11 year old daughter. We'd been out swimming, treated the kids to a pack of sweets each, in the car on the way home. Daughter and husband sat next to each other in the back and all of a sudden he says to her 'can you stop chewing so loudly in my ear' it clearly offended her. Thoughts please...

My thoughts are that she needs to learn to close her mouth while eating…it’s basic manners. No harm done imo

Seems fair enough. Loud chewing noises are disgusting.

Sounds like she was really enjoying those sweets, what a shame.

Was she chewing loudly? If someone should mention it.

What do you think he should have said to alert your DD to her off putting chewing sounds and ask her to stop?

My thoughts are why are you giving this any head space? Chewing noise is disgusting and if she was chewing loudly she needed to be corrected.

Upset and angry because your DH asked your (his too presumably) daughter to eat more politely?

Are you ok?

Yes, what a shame, how dare other people exist and be affected by her noisy chomping!
@Meg878o do you triangulate with the dc and their dad a lot? Why has she jumped to being “offended” at being told off?

oh and why is dh stuck in the back with the dc?

My DH would tell DS this. Especially if they were chewy sweets. He's quite intolerant to slurpy, chompy slapping of lips. And I get it. It's gross.

Sometimes kids get told things they don't want to hear.. That's parenting.

Why was he sitting in the back? Did a different child get to sit in the front? Do your kids often rule the roost a bit and get offended when told off?

God loud chewing gives me the rage. Don’t blame him for saying something. Why would you want your dd not to be aware that she’s eating like an animal?

Why would this be a problem? Surely it's just basic manners, don't chew noisily with your mouth open, similar to stop picking your nose or put your hand over your mouth when you cough. Is there some sort of drip feed coming about why your dd can't be told to do this?

Why even think about it? I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve said to our two “will you stop chomping your food in my ear”.

It hasn’t harmed them in the slightest.

At 11 she's old enough to know basic manners Op, just because he's her Dad doesn't mean he can't find her chomping in his ear annoying

At 11 she is old enough to not get so upset and offended by this.

It was possibly a fair comment, loud chewing right by someone's ear is irritating and gross. A bit of self awareness of how your actions affect others is a good thing

Loud eating is horrible. At least one parent is trying to ensure basic manners!

Why was she chewing loudly in his ear?

Depends on how he said it. If he said it calmly and nicely but as a way of pointing it out that’s absolutely fine surely?

It's a parent's job to teach their children manners, sounds like this is what he was doing, good on him.

Yeah. He’s done nothing wrong. There is nothing more irritating than someone chipping, chewing and slurping right next to you.

Absolutely fair enough, good on him.

If your daughter was eating noisily, then your husband was right to pick her up on it. I agree with others that eating noise is revolting, particularly if it’s very close to someone else, and the vast majority of the time it’s possible without making any sound.

Oh no, she was...offended? Call social services quick.

She's 11 she's plenty old enough to know chewing loudly is both rude and likely to annoy people. I don't see how his comment was unreasonable or why you think he should just put up with it and why you're upset and angry at him. Are you always so quick to anger?

I'm also wondering why he's in the back and one of the children are in the front?

What’s the issue?

And why is your adult DH sat in the back?

Why are you upset and angry, and why is she offended? Both of those seem like overreactions, especially from you. Having someone chew loudly in your ear is horrible.