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Husband told daughter to stop chewing so loudly in his ear

392 replies

Meg878o · 09/02/2026 07:18

AIBU to be upset and angry about this comment my husband made to.our 11 year old daughter. We'd been out swimming, treated the kids to a pack of sweets each, in the car on the way home. Daughter and husband sat next to each other in the back and all of a sudden he says to her 'can you stop chewing so loudly in my ear' it clearly offended her. Thoughts please...

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bozzabollix · 09/02/2026 07:35

Why do people not correct their kids loud chewing anymore? It’s rank, and basically means nobody will want to ever sit next to them eating.

Your husband is 100% right on this. Least someone is looking out for her future social skills.

Coffeetimes3 · 09/02/2026 07:35

Sounds like a non issue to me. Unless his tone was particularly awful.

TheBlueKoala · 09/02/2026 07:35

My Dh told 12 year old DS off for eating too loudly yesterday. I said well done because I haven't noticed and I want him to be polite. On a sidenote I can't stand anyone eating noisily but with my dc I have selected hearing apparantly.

Fatiguedwithlife · 09/02/2026 07:36

I hate loud chewing.
I don’t think the OP will be back

beAsensible1 · 09/02/2026 07:36

?? You can’t be serious? She was chewing loudly he ask her to stop?

if she was upset that’s also ok, she will get over it. Someone asking you to stop doing something isn’t a personal slight. You should be encouraging emotional resilience rather than making her into someone who can’t take feedback or correction.

she’s not a baby she’s 11.

Thesnailonthewhale · 09/02/2026 07:37

99pwithaflake · 09/02/2026 07:33

What’s the issue?

And why is your adult DH sat in the back?

Maybe he prefers it. Maybe the DD asked him to sit next to her. Maybe the kids are allowed to take in turns to go in the front as treat when they go swimming..

My DD will often ask for DH to sit with her in the back.

What does it matter?

TriciaMcMillan · 09/02/2026 07:37

From OP's posting history, it seems this isn't really the issue.

PurpleThistle7 · 09/02/2026 07:38

This is the funniest thing I’ve seen today. What combination of words would you have preferred?

EvangelineTheNightStar · 09/02/2026 07:38

Maybe if he said “darling daughter, light of my life, you are absolutely supremely skilled in the incredibly audible mastication of the hubba bubba, the way you have positioned yourself so that the sounds of chomping
and slurping travel directly into my ear canal are astounding!! Now please emotionally brace yourself for this audacious request… could you change the positioning of your lips so that they remain closed?”

AutumnAllTheWay · 09/02/2026 07:38

I said this twice to my kids of similar age yesterday!

I wish all parents would make sure their kids chew quietly, before they grow up and annoy the heck out of the rest of us as adults who eat loudly...

LesserSootyOwl · 09/02/2026 07:38

If you are upset and angry about this comment, that implies to me that either you and your DH are going through a bad patch and you're in a 'he can't do anything right' phase, or your DD is a bit spoilt and never gets told off, or he was much harsher than it seems from your description. Could it be any of these OP?

Brewtiful · 09/02/2026 07:39

Thesnailonthewhale · 09/02/2026 07:37

Maybe he prefers it. Maybe the DD asked him to sit next to her. Maybe the kids are allowed to take in turns to go in the front as treat when they go swimming..

My DD will often ask for DH to sit with her in the back.

What does it matter?

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Because in the context of this thread it adds to the impression the OP is giving that her child and their wishes are more important than those of their father.

TappyGilmore · 09/02/2026 07:39

Seems an odd thing to be upset and angry about. It’s not a big deal.

MySweetGeorgina · 09/02/2026 07:39

Who is sitting up front next to you?

SemperIdem · 09/02/2026 07:39

I cannot understand why you’d be upset by this.

Notmyreality · 09/02/2026 07:40

Is this really the best you could come up with Op?

LittleGreenDragons · 09/02/2026 07:41

Why are you upset at him parenting his own child? It's disgusting to have someone chomping in your ear.

Why is he sitting in the back?

ShawnaMacallister · 09/02/2026 07:42

Pepperedpickles · 09/02/2026 07:31

Depends on how he said it. If he said it calmly and nicely but as a way of pointing it out that’s absolutely fine surely?

Even if he said it irritably it would still be fine. Children aren't made of glass, they can take a bit of a telling off when they are being annoying. She's 11, not 4!

HelpMeGetThrough · 09/02/2026 07:43

B1anche · 09/02/2026 07:32

Oh no, she was...offended? Call social services quick.

Of course she was offended, it’s her job to now learn how to be offended at everything.

Sounds like mother is training her well.

Applecup · 09/02/2026 07:44

PersephoneParlormaid · 09/02/2026 07:21

Sounds like she was really enjoying those sweets, what a shame.

Blimey I’ve often told me kids to close their mouth while eating/stop making a noise/eat nicely. They’ve all grown up perfectly fine. Stop being so overprotective. Better to hear it from a parent than everyone else think it.

Magnoliafarm · 09/02/2026 07:44

Some chewy sweets are literally impossible to eat without loud chewing it sticks your teeth together and you have to pull them hard to get them apart! Did none of you steal a chewy stripy lolly from the Halloween bucket? Or what about fruut gums? You can try to eat them without chewing but it's so hard not to chew there was an advert about this for years! Go and eat some now and see if you can do it quietly.

Coffeeishot · 09/02/2026 07:45

I would have been the same with an 11 year old, is her dad not allowed to tell her off?

CeeceeBloomingdale · 09/02/2026 07:45

That's basic parenting, why on earth would that upset or anger you?

RawBloomers · 09/02/2026 07:47

Edited, because someone else's point made more sense:

OP, if your DH saying this has made you upset and angry - what's going on in your marriage? Has he been a total git in other ways? You don't have to wait for him to be nasty to your kids, if he's nasty to you that's reason enough to take action.

Hoardasurass · 09/02/2026 07:47

Yes yabu nobody should have to listen to someone loudly chewing especially if she's chewing with her mouth open.

Its a parents job to teach their children basic manners including how to eat quietly with your mouth closed, by age 11 she should already know not to make loud chewing noises.

The question i have is why do you think that your daughter should be allowed to make loud gross chewing noises in someone's ear and not be pulled up for it? Or is it just that her dad did it?