Is this cheating, would you forgive this?

[Meg878o]

Husband was dismissed from work a month ago and has now been sacked following a full investigation. Reason being that he said sexually inappropriate words at work, derogatory jokes, he was in a team leader position, saying to his workmates that customers were 'fit' and had nice boobs etc, commenting on their bodies in general, telling female workmates that they're attractive and in good shape. Would appreciate any views on this?

I wouldn't class it as cheating but he's clearly a total lech. So probably still a deal-breaker.

Its not cheating but its fucking disgusting and slimey

Disgusting. If he says things like that at work, what’s he like socially.

It’s even worse tbh. He’s been sexually harassing colleagues. I think you know this tbh.

It’s not cheating but I wouldn’t want to be with someone who behaved like this. How embarrassing. Has this come completely out of the blue that he talks and behaves like this?

Does it matter whether it qualifies as cheating or not?! He’s a repulsive low life who treats women like shit. What more do you need to know?

Not cheating but disgusting. Are you confident that’s the extent of the allegations?

Not cheating but is he a teenager? Because unless so then he is just a sleaze ball and that’s gross.

Ladz ladz ladz tits on her 🤢 oi oi ladz id bend er over 😉 🤢

Get in the bin.

I could never forgive that.

I would never let a disgusting and lecherous pig like that ever touch me again.

He obviously wanted to cheat! You do not need this in your life.

You will never ever be able to relax, when he walks out the door to work or be with his colleagues.

He sexually harassed his colleagues and objectified his customers. He's repulsive. He's is a grown adult man and doesn't understand that he can think whatever he wants but he can't say whatever he wants. It's not cheating but it is gross.

I would class it as cheating but it’s not the behaviour of someone I would stay married to.

He has been sacked (major offence) for sexual harassment. No it’s not cheating. For me it’s worse. It’s making women feel so uncomfortable that he’s been sacked because of it.

It's not cheating but what difference does that make?
He's been sacked for being a mysoginistic creep. He has no respect for women.

Not cheating.
But not trustworthy.
It would be a deal breaker for me. If h3 can't conduct himself in a professional environment, while in a position of power, how the hell does he act in other areas if life?

Jeez. I'd be ashamed and pretty repulsed tbh.

It doesn’t have to fit the definition of cheating to leave.

Also, in a man’s world you absolutely know that these comments have to have been way worse than “she’s fit” to be investigated and sacked. Likely he’s made very offensive and derogatory comments towards women on a very regular basis and his own colleagues were repulsed.

I couldn’t let him near me again if that was my DH

This is about the third time I’ve read this exact story on mn in the last few months.

You've been asking the same question here every week for over a month now. And you keep getting the same responses. What do you think is going to change?

He’s potentially made himself unemployable.

Are you happy to be the sole breadwinner for the rest of your lives?

Not cheating. But has he always been like this? Why on earth would he do that, especially in this day and age when getting sacked for it is highly likely! What an idiot.

It's not cheating but your dh is a prize idiot, disrespectful to women, totally lacking in professionalism and somehow stuck in the 80s.

Give him a kick, a final warning and tell him to find himself another job fast because you won't be keeping him in the manner to which he has become accustomed.

What a prat.

It's not cheating, but it's fucking nasty. Don't know if I could forgive it.

This sums it up perfectly.

why are you worried about him cheating when he's literally sexually harassing women? you need to sort your priorities out tbh

Not cheating but what a scumbag. I'd fuck him off asap.