Do I end this based on hearsay.

[Emotionstorn]

Been dating my partner since August. He has a child from a previous relationship but have no plans to introduce children until later.

He has told me him and his ex had quite a stormy breakup. Arguing etc and she told his friends and family that he hit her.

He denies this completely. Has sworn on the life of his child he has never done that.
I have experienced DV historically and I don’t know whether to walk away based on this or not.
There are no red flags or anything that I have seen myself

i just don’t know what to do

All these people saying "proceed with caution"...

What does that mean? She would already be incautious to continue a relationship with a guy she barely knows who has been accused of violence and swears on his child's life. She already has a history of DV. How do you continue to date this man while still remaining cautious? What more must happen?

Which I had already said/discussed on an earlier post.

I was responding to someone else when you popped up quoting my post, not in relation to what I was talking about. Continuity was lacking.

This.

I will "pop up" as I please on a public discussion, sir. And if you can't see the connection and implication between an OP asking if she should continue seeing a man accused of violence and another person responding "look at aaaaall these women who lied", then may I suggest that you should not be lecturing anyone about continuity.

Me too, theyre always wronguns in my book.
get out now @Emotionstorn , don’t worry about benefit of the doubt, there’s plenty more fish in the sea, throw this one back.

Whether it’s ‘hearsay’ or not, is your life or that of any children worth the risk?

Excellent posts by @ThatCyanCat

Wow, you're rather aggressive.

Women don’t owe men a sexual relationship. No man is owed a sexual relationship from any woman.

and proceed with caution could get her raped or killed.

Unlike you, who’s just passive aggressive?

That's not aggression, that's simply a truth that you don't like so you have to try and invalidate it somehow.

No, I was to the point, asked a question then pointed out lack on continuity. You're just on full on attack.
I am not the enemy here.

“No red flags” at all, is sometimes a big red flag in itself.
As is a stormy break-up. There is no smoke without fire.

And I don’t trust people who swear on their child lives - they are over compensating.

Do you have kids OP?

Honestly, I think that this is a no brainer and would be ending this now before you get any further involved.

Why risk it?

There’s a chance that he told you because he knows someone else might say something if all his friends/family have already been told so he’s just trying to get in early so if someone mentions it he can say oh I told you about my crazy ex making up stories.

Even if it’s not true do you really want to bring the potential chaos of dating a man with a child from a tumultuous relationship. He still has to co parent and it could mean further potential allegations.

So countering you on the internet is aggression, but pressuring a woman to keep seeing a potentially violent man to prove she's a good person is...

Who pressured a woman? Wasn't me.

This is a textbook, misogynistic attempt at shutting a woman down. She wasn’t aggressive in the slightest.

The word is no mate.

You did so. It’s absolutely a standard tactic to shut a woman up to call her aggressive.

Are you joking 😂It is worth reading to comprehend and not just reading to respond. Quote my words and point out where I accused any woman or poster here please of what you are claiming - I will kindly wait.

A - "you've accused women of "finding someone guilty" "
I simply pointed out that common sense says "innocent until proven guilty or make an informed decision" and not "believe someone just because of their gender, your own bias, ignorance, some sort of man/woman code, shared interest, relationship to the party etc". False accusations are a thing and yes, anyone is entitled to decide if they stay or leave, even without waiting for facts to be proven, it is very much a self choice(I bet you will my words again)

B - You stated "assuming the stories are even true🤔" You see? You seem to feel entitled to doubt my own factual story just yet claims that a woman should not be doubted anytime a claim is made (you see the double standard in your judgement and twisting of my words?; I bet you do not just because it challenges your narrative) . FYI, in my case, it was proved by law enforcement to be false and by actual evidence in the court of law. You proved my exact point in point "A"

I am a woman but I bet you will challenge that too

Am I man?!!!

As the post trail will show, you denied that a person telling the OP about all these women who lied was suggesting that she should date this potentially violent man. Continuity, sir.

If being contradicted on the internet by a woman reads as aggressive to you, you might want to think about that for a bit.

The law says innocent until proven guilty.

common sense does not.

No one has red flags at first. You’ve only been seeing him 6 months. There’s already a child and a messy breakup with the mother in the picture. And he might be violent. I would walk now if I were you.

Next it’ll be “why are you being hysterical?”, followed by “Must be on her period”.

Interesting also, that suddenly both of them are back…..it’s like they’re on mind…..oh…..wait.