To not want to meet friend for coffee today?

[ThestoriesIcouldtellyou]

Just back from a girls weekend. One of my friends didn't organise a way to get back home and slept on another friends sofa last night. Now it's Monday morning and she is at a loose end. All her friends (including me) are working. I work from home. She has asked me for a coffee either after lunch or later l, but I only have an hours lunch break and don't finish work until 5:30pm. Then I'd booked the gym for 6pm, haven't been for a week due to illness and was really looking forward to it. AIBU to just say no? I wouldn't mind meeting for a quick coffee at 1.45 for ten mins but I think she will expect to come to my house and then I have no way to get rid of her.

No sorry I'm working I've got calls all day

Why are you asking on the internet? Surely you just tell her you don't have time, you're working till 5.30 and already have plans for afterwards?

Why would it be unreasonable? You are working… it’s a pretty simple no

Being available for friends is voluntary. Just say no, not today.

Tell her you’ve only got ten minutes and suggest where to meet her? Then when you’re there you can suggest what shops she can check out nearby as you rush off.

Do you really need advice from the internet about whether to have coffee with a friend or not?

You're working and you've just spent the weekend with her. It's fine to say no!

Meeting her for just ten minutes would be worse than not meeting her at all! Tell her you don't have time today.

🙄seriously?

I just feel bad as she lives an hour away so I don't get to see her often, but I've just spent three days sleeping in the same room with her and now I need to return to my real life. I think the ten minute quick coffee is fair and I'm going to then speed off because I genuinely have a shit load to do.

But it's ridiculous -- why would she think you want to interrupt your working day to see her again, when you've just spent 24/7 with her for three full days?

There’s no way you’ll be able to do a coffee in 10 mins. Just say you can’t today, sorry

Jesus. I wrote "let's do a ten minute coffee as I have meetings this afternoon and then a lesson and gym". She wrote back "that's a real pace you have. I'll pass by this evening when you have more time". That's actually worse. My husband and daughter are away and I was REALLY looking forward to a quiet evening alone after a whole weekend with ten women.

Is 1.45 your lunch break or a ten minute break?
I don’t really know why you can’t just say no, you’re working.

Then you say, 'Sorry, that doesn't work for me. It was lovely to see you this weekend.'

Argh I can’t stand people like this. Could you tell her you’re meeting someone else for dinner, she can’t argue with that.

'Sorry but I'll be exhausted after all that and the weekend away. We'll catch up some other time.'

Just don't answer the door
This is mumsnet
No one answers the door

WWNRD? Just say no.

This is so weird. The fact that you need advice from strangers over whether to have a coffee with someone, the fact that she seems to be hanging around indefinitely ‘because she didn’t organise a way to get home’ (how is she getting home tonight?)…

Sorry I already have plans tonight

There's absolutely no need for the OP to invent stuff? You'd have to be a total wet lettuce not to just tell someone you've just spent 24/7 for a three-day weekend with that it doesn't work for you, you're tired after the weekend and a bust day at work and don't want to see anyone.

I have a friend like this op - just doesn't take the hint. You need to be brutal with her and say ah no can't do that.

To suggest a “10 minute coffee” was ridiculous of you tbh

Fine, she can do that then, was just a suggestion 🤷🏻‍♀️