To not want to meet friend for coffee today?

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Just back from a girls weekend. One of my friends didn't organise a way to get back home and slept on another friends sofa last night. Now it's Monday morning and she is at a loose end. All her friends (including me) are working. I work from home. She has asked me for a coffee either after lunch or later l, but I only have an hours lunch break and don't finish work until 5:30pm. Then I'd booked the gym for 6pm, haven't been for a week due to illness and was really looking forward to it. AIBU to just say no? I wouldn't mind meeting for a quick coffee at 1.45 for ten mins but I think she will expect to come to my house and then I have no way to get rid of her.

Some people have a mental deafness when it suits them. Girl I was friendly with last year MORE THAN ONCE A WEEK FOR MONTHS would tell me she would pop around for a natter when i was free. I would reply that after work I have parenting obligations then college and once she even just arrived at my home at 10pm. She didnt have her kids half the week and got bored home alone. The fact I go to bed before 10 most nights due to work made no difference to her life.

Text back and tell her you can't do this evening, and safe travels back home

It actually sounds like shes hoping to stay over at your place.

She lives an hour away. Why has she still not gone home yet?

Laughed out loud at this 😂

Ugh. Do not sacrifice your time and space when you know you need it.

Don't make anything up. Just a friendly, 'Sorry I can't, my evening is already spoken for. It was so lovely to see you/everyone - roll on the next one! Have a safe trip home x

Honestly. Some people have such empty heads that they can't stand being alone with their own thoughts - as it's just tumbleweed in there. It's like having a toddler as a mate.

Are you referring to the OP or her friend?

😂

That’s what I was thinking. The OP seems very childlike in her ability to deal with a normal, every day situation such as being asked for a coffee, and her friend somehow can’t manage to get herself home from a weekend away, despite home being only an hour away.

Why even entertain this?! A coffee is never going to be 10 minutes! Just say sorry but you haven’t seen your family for days so her coming round won’t work. Hope to catch her soon.

Just say no!
Why isn't she going home?

Ten minutes for a coffee was a silly suggestion and just a flat no, sorry, loadsnof work to catch up on after the weekend, would have been better.

Just write that you can’t as you’re meeting a friend from work and you literally don’t have time as you have so much to catch up on.

Just say you are tired and want an evening to yourself.

Why isn’t she going home?

Just don't open the door to her/pretend you're not in. I'd have said in the first place 'sorry, back to normality for me today, I can't meet for a coffee. Thanks for a nice weekend!'.

I think I would just go back and say any other time would have been brilliant but I can't do tonight - I need an early night after the weekend adventures. Lock your door and switch off the doorbell and put your phone on silent!

Eerrr! Just say no. What's up with you?

Just say you have plans after work you don't need to be specific.

“Hi friend, sorry won’t be in tonight. Catch up with you next time xx”

This^
Is she hoping to spend tonight at your place and make it hard for you to say "no"?
You need to push "No" till she confirms that she understands and accepts it.
Again, why has she not gone home already?

Ah, sorry but I’m busy this evening!

"No can do!" Or, perhaps. "Go the fuck home, FFS, woman."

Why do people need to get advice from thousands of strangers on the internet before responding to a simple and straightforward request?
Try learning to think for yourself OP.

She wants another sofa or a spare bed to sleep in tonight!!!!!!

OMG. A simple "sorry friend but I'm not free as I'm working and then out tonight, it was great to see you at the weekend".

How tf does this situation warrant a thread on Mumsnet? especially from someone who is working.