Has lack of Premier Inn breakfast ruined the weekend?

[Liesmorelies]

I mean, it hasn't, not for me, but DH seems to feel otherwise and I don't know if I've been UR. We (us and two dc) were in London overnight to see a show. We would normally maximise our time in the city and leave maybe this sort of time on Sunday, but we've all been ill and still feel a bit tired and rundown and so agreed we'd leave after breakfast and maybe a walk/quick trip to a park or the river.

When I woke I realised our PI was about a 20 minute walk from Shoreditch market where I was sure there are loads of cafes and stalls. Although we normally have the PI breakfast I thought this would be a nice change and mean we would be doing what we had planned (quick trip to somewhere nice and a walk) and could then leave. Also looked up a particular cafe that looked nice. Everyone agreed - all fine.

When we arrived at the cafe there was a queue. DH immediately said in a moody way, 'That's that then,' and started huffing. I said let's walk up (we were at the end of the road) it might not be that bad, but he had walked off. We ended up wandering around the area with him getting increasingly grumpy. Sods law, we weren't really going past any suitable looking cafes, although I'm sure the area is full of them. We did see a Pret but I didn't want that.

We eventually saw a nice independent cafe where we were able to have porridge,pastries, toast and spreads, fresh juice and lovely coffee. We all ate but DH wouldn't stop going on about the bloody PI. Yes, I get that he would eat his body weight there and we ended up with a relatively small breakfast that probably cost more (though our kids are 16 and 18, so no more free PI breakfasts!) but what we had was lovely, the place was lovely, and a bit different, and, ffs, PI will still be there next time. I offered to look for another place or even a Greggs for him to 'top up,' but he went in full strop mode. DS1 loves a PI breakfast too and he didn't moan, and dd was wanting pancakes in the place with a queue but she didn't moan that she didn't end up getting them, it's just him acting like a child. He also moaned about the cost, saying PI breakfast would have done for lunch as well, but we were home in time for a late lunch and no one wanted food on the journey so it's like he's just looking for stuff to moan about.

We're home now but he has said he's sick of me making all the decisions, I'm fussy and nothing is good enough and I'm just hard work. He's gone for a run but it was an atmosphere all the way home. Did I do wrong - I get I could have looked at booking but to me it worked out fine in the end.

Is the man baby still sulking OP?

Omg is your husband 5 ?

I've only stayed in a couple of Premier Inns, but in both venues breakfast was not included in the room rate, and in fact was (I thought) quite an expensive add-on. (Also was not freshly cooked in either place.)

I feel like I’m understanding the DH’s position more as this thread goes on 😬

Wtf!

I mean I love a full English if I get chance, but your DHs reaction is Ott. It's def not worth bringing the world down over it. And to then rant at you, tell him to do one. What an AH.

Another first world problem.

You haven’t said this OP but I bet you’ve been having the PI breakfasts for years and I understand that when the kids are free because it’s good value and you can eat a lot and it saves you a bit of money later. I bet now the kids are older you just want something a little nicer and that’s not wrong. I think some people on here just want to bring women down so I wouldn’t even acknowledge them. Of course he shouldn’t have been that grumpy over a flipping breakfast. I think a lot if men do this btw. They’re happy to do what you say you want and don’t offer any alternatives or voice their opinion but the moment anything goes wrong they blame you. Meanwhile when anything they suggest goes wrong we’re smoothing it all over and saying not to worry.

We have this sometimes when we are away more typically at dinner time, we head off out with a couple of locations in mind, we mooch a bit to find the best choice and any indecision can make one of the four of us hangry. However it's ridiculous that it's still an issue for your husband several hours later. Having eaten many Premier Inn breakfasts they genuinely are nothing special, it's not like your husband missed out a gourmet breakfast.

PI breakfasts are fine, but it’s generally much nicer to go somewhere a bit more individual. Your DH is a big baby 😂

Well I haven't said I'm completely right, have I? I've acknowledged that we had less food and that we (I) should definitely have booked. But several people seem to feel he's fine to sulk all day. I'm grateful for those who have seen my pov. I just wanted to make something out of the morning but it should have been planned better.

He's not sulking now and is acting like nothing has happened. Which is fine and, yes, it's a bit of a non-issue, I know.

Christ almighty I’m glad I’m not married to a man who strops about not getting his shitty all you can eat Premier Inn breakfast and ruins what should’ve been a nice weekend.

You were in London, you wanted to explore a bit and have a nice brekkie before you left - perfectly normal, reasonable behaviour and he’s having a mantrum and acting like a cunt in front of your dc’s.

YANBU OP.

Your posts are very I focused. I thought it would be nice. I didn’t want Pret. I thought it worked out fine. You are putting yourself in the role of deciding what everyone would 'love', even though it clearly didn’t work out that way. Do you know how your teens felt? Would they tell you honestly if asked? They might be fed up with both of you.

Going along with something in the moment isn’t the same as actually wanting it, especially when one person is driving the decisions. Your DH saying he’s fed up with you making all the decisions suggests this isn’t just about one breakfast, but a wider pattern.

You might not see it like that, but from the outside it doesn’t come across as a joint decision. It looks like you deciding, and everyone else having to live with it when it doesn’t work.

You and your DH need a proper conversation about what’s reasonable. Maybe he’s never clearly voiced his frustration before, in which case you wouldn’t know. You are not a mind reader. Or maybe he has raised it and you’ve dismissed it. Either way, unless you sit down and work through this together, neither of you will really know where the problem lies.

Its not really the point but pastries and coffee are just a bog standard breakfast to me, nothing exciting, but a fry up isnt something we ever have unless we're out

The problem is to get a really nice one, is around 20 quid these days.

Anyway not really sure waht OP wanted out of the thread. Probably to bash her husband. So ok, its all his fault.

The thing on MN is that posters such as yourself will come on and make a thread about something like this that in isolation isn’t a massive deal (though it would make me very angry) and could possibly be put down to him being tired etc. - But you just know this isn’t an isolated incident and you’re just getting pissed off in general with his childish, unreasonable behaviour.

Women usually come and post on here when they’re getting sick and tired of living in the shadow of their h’s mood swings and bullying behaviour and are starting to question if it’s normal (it’s not).

I think if it was up to him we would just all sit all day and not go anywhere or do anything.

Finally what really needs unpicking.

I wouldn't have skipped the PI breakfast purely because of the convenience of it and knowing it works out as good value as we don't eat anything else other than a snack that day. Unless I knew we were definitely going to go to the cafe I had seen (and potentially booked) then I wouldn't want to be wandering round on the off chance of finding somewhere. I think we would all be hangry in my household!

So wait…he’s over it now and you’re still arguing it in this thread?!

How can anyone say that the food at a Premier Inn is the same as a decent cafe? Sourdough vs cheapo bread, proper butter pastries vs el shitto veg oil, decent coffee... no comparison..

I don't know if you've ever lived with a sulker? It's no fun at all. He put a cloud over the whole day and made the journey home unpleasant, went off and did his own thing leaving me to unpack, pick up the pets etc and is now back and carrying on like nothing happened. Yes, I still feel I need an outlet actually.

Disagree.

I really feel for you. I had a sulker ex and it's horrible. It's actually abusive.

My husband is very precious about breakfast, he literally cannot function for the day until he has had a cup of tea and a proper breakfast. He is totally set in his ways when it comes to breakfast. He’s pretty low maintenance generally but I would never wing it for breakfast, Premier Inn or a specific planned and booked place for a happy marriage here.

I can’t believe some of these replies.

The minutiae details of the breakfast are neither here nor there- your DH is being a grumpy arse.

Maybe if he’d had a sulk then acknowledged it and apologised because he was hangry, or because the plans were changed, that would be one thing- everyone gets annoyed sometimes. But sulking all day on a family trip about a sodding breakfast? He needs to grow up.

OK, so next steps then OP?

Is this how you want to spend the rest of your life, living with a sulker who just wants to vegetate on the sofa?

He sounds awful. He agreed with the plan and only when it went wrong (which happens) he sulked the whole rest of the trip? Fuck that.

Also, if you’re in a place like London and like a decent coffee, it’s actually so basic to just stay in your Premier Inn for a breakfast you can get anywhere… I would always prefer to go and seek out a decent coffee and see some more places as a bonus.

Anyway, your DH sounds very boring and twattish and it’s a LTB from me! Find someone who will go and adventure with you!

They were in a place with probably 100 cafes within walking distance, it’s not like she made him “traipse” to a barren wasteland with no food. Totally fine to wing it for breakfast in an area like Spitalfields.