Found out from friend that husband is going Vegas in August for his 30th but hasn’t told me

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I am not too sure how I feel about this, what would you do in this situation?

So my Husbands best friend is going Vegas for his 30th this August, his friends wife is also my best friend, it’s a couples only thing but we have 2 young children who in August will be just turned 1 and an almost 4 year old.

She only just broke it to me in a conversation that my husband has said he is 100% going not realising he hasn’t told me yet, but she has said it’s a couples thing and it’s not a place suitable for young children at all so I definitely won’t be going and I would not leave my children at that age for a week being that far away. So by the seems of it my husband might be going alone, but this angers me because it is going to be the school holidays which means I am sole parent for a week which I know is going to be tough when my 3 year old (will be turning 4 in September) is off pre school. My baby would have just turned 1 so my hand are going to be very full!

I just feel if it was the other way round I would say “No I can’t go because of the kids” - but that’s just me. I could never leave my husband for a whole week to go Vegas on a couples holiday with all our friends.

Am I being selfish here?

I also don’t know if I should just wait for him to bring it up to me, or tell him I know.

I've just seen this. I'd be annoyed too OP.
Even more reason to discuss it first, considering you've cancelled a family holiday. I'd let him go, as it's a special occasion (best mate's 30th) but I'd be adamant that the next holiday has to be a family holiday.

This is the kind of thing my DP used to do. My advice would be to nip it in the bud now otherwise it will become the norm for him to do this and then it’s a lot harder to break.
have you managed to reach a resolution yet?

Flying to the US (esp now, and at anytime Vegas..and for a few days??) is unacceptable having not discussed it. These are his children too, not his stepkids. Sooo many issues w it! The distance, the money, the lack of discussion. And Vegads...ugh. I LIVED thereits awful and only gotten worse. Riiight... My arse it was and intended surprise to incl you. If this does transpire the min he is home, recouperating and exhausted hand him the kids and leave on own holiday.