To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

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DD (11) had two friends for a sleepover last night. About 9pm I walked into the kitchen to find them playing some 'game' where one of them was trying to make the other two laugh when their mouths were full of water. The girls were holding soup bowls and spitting the water into them, except they were obviously missing the bowls and there was spat-out water on my kitchen floor. I asked them to stop and to clean up the mess they made.

When i returned to the kitchen they were still playing the game, with the manky water still on the floor so I asked them to stop again. I have a mirror in the kitchen and saw the two other girls rolling their eyes behind my back and trying not to snigger. At that point I told them it was time for them to go home, so I called their parents to collect them. One parent was pretty apologetic, the other was less than impressed and was pretty snippy with me.

DD still isn't speaking to me for sending her pals away but I was pissed off with the lack of respect from them. AIBU?

I’d just let them play and then make them clean it up.

I would have made them stop the game and clear up, but not sent them home.

I think you were a bit harsh OP. Sleepovers are a big deal at that age. If I were your DD I would have been mortified.

They should have stopped when you told them to and cleaned up.
I would have packed them off as you did.

JFC OP. You need to unclench.

It's just water. Would it really have been such a big ask to let them clean up once they were bored of it?

They were just having a bit of pre teen fun, they weren’t hurting anybody. As long as they wiped and cleaned everything after they had finished I’d have left them to it! Your DD must be so embarrassed and I doubt people will want to come to yours after this.

I don't think I would have sent them home but everyone has different rules. The eye rolling is rude though so I'd probably just not invite them back for another sleepover instead of sending them home.

Massive overreaction for goodness sake, how embarrassing for your daughter.

I expect she wasn't allowed to play with anything messy when she was younger too?

Well I'd have told them off for the eye rolling (and the spit water on floor) but no I wouldn't have sent them home

Think that's a bit much for this particular situation

I don’t think I’d have sent them home for that. It sounds like a silly game but they can get silly at sleepovers and it wasn’t harming anyone. I would have made them clean it up then forget about it.

Overreaction- it was water not wasting food. Your DD will be embarrassed for sure; friendships are so important at that age

I would have sent them home too mostly for the eye rolling.

It's not so much the water, it's the lack of respect in your own home that's unacceptable.

I do feel for your DD

This will go around school that her Mum is a mean battle axe who cant see the funny side of kids being kids. Yes they should have had a bit more respect but come on we're you always an angel as a child? I would have threatened going home if they hadn't cleared up after realising I was serious

I wouldn’t have sent home (presumably it was just on a hard floor so not really a big deal) but I would read the riot act and send them out of the room if they had continued doing something I had asked them to stop, and probably taken my DD aside and told her in no uncertain terms to sort it out!

I'm thinking of the other mums....just settling down for Netflix wine and chill AND wham...thanks OP...

Ofc they rolled their eyes, you were making a big deal over a game that wasn't hurting anyone. They'd thought of the practicalities- using a bowl, in the kitchen so floor could easily be mopped and you were acting like they were throwing soup at each other or something

Massive overreaction and your poor DD will probably be teased about it now

Omg it’s water not poop, just tell dd to mop up after and chill the hell out!

This is a common thing online now, I’ve seen videos of this all over SM. It’s just a bit of water, I think you were being a bit OTT.

What a ridiculous overreaction. It was a bit of harmless fun and preteen eye rolling at a sleepover. You're acting like they were trashing the house.

I feel quite sorry for your poor daughter.

Awning them home was a total overreaction.

it will be a long time before your daughter lives this down.

I would've stuck a large towel down and let them get on with it, as long as they cleaned up when finished 🤷‍♂️

Oh god. I really feel for your daughter.
You don't have to be a try hard cool mum but you didn't have to be so uptight and embarrass her in front of her friends.
I feel so sorry for your daughter

Complete over reaction. If your dd is year 7 and just getting into secondary friendship groups then you gave just put the kibosh on her being invited to any sleepovers. The mums you made pick up.will not want to risk upsetting you in the future by allowing your kid to have fun at their house. I bet your daughter is absolutely dreading school on Monday. I really hope you can find a way to make it up to her.

Massive overreaction, it’s water! They were having silly fun, like they do at 11.The eye rolling isn’t great but it wasn’t in front of you, you just so happened to see in the mirror. Bet your daughter is embarrassed and doubt any friends will want to come round now.