To have sent DCs friends home for this behaviour?

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DD (11) had two friends for a sleepover last night. About 9pm I walked into the kitchen to find them playing some 'game' where one of them was trying to make the other two laugh when their mouths were full of water. The girls were holding soup bowls and spitting the water into them, except they were obviously missing the bowls and there was spat-out water on my kitchen floor. I asked them to stop and to clean up the mess they made.

When i returned to the kitchen they were still playing the game, with the manky water still on the floor so I asked them to stop again. I have a mirror in the kitchen and saw the two other girls rolling their eyes behind my back and trying not to snigger. At that point I told them it was time for them to go home, so I called their parents to collect them. One parent was pretty apologetic, the other was less than impressed and was pretty snippy with me.

DD still isn't speaking to me for sending her pals away but I was pissed off with the lack of respect from them. AIBU?

Your house, your rules

I think this is OTT. Your child will feel humiliated and embarrassed when this gets out at school. It was just unnecessary.

If anything, you could have given them a strict time limit and said stop rolling your eyes at me and if you don’t clean this up in 3 minutes flat I will call your parents.

That threat alone probably would’ve worked but to leap right into sending them home seems a bit much.

You may well have ruined their parents evenings as well. It was hardly an emergency to ring them like that. I would have had a heart attack (assuming some sort of disaster) before you got to the spitting water... Can't you control a couple of girls for a few hours when they have been left in your care?

I would have been dying to ask if I could join in tbh!

Jeez, you really need to lighten up.

As long as they cleaned up afterwards, I really can't see the problem with this. They're kids having fun.

I’d have made them stop that game asap but I wouldn’t have sent them home.
They might not have been allowed back though!

Daughter brought the smbarassment on herself by not doing as her mum told her.

Me too, I'd then be the embarrassing mum who wanted to join in!

I can understand why you'd feel that way OP. It does feel a bit disrespectful.

I would have perhaps warned them. "Please don't roll your eyes at me. I've asked you to clean up so if you'd like to have your sleepover please can you do that now" and then they had the chance to do it and stay. It still feels harsh but I get it if you're not in the mood.

She didn't have a backbone, she caused a massive drama over nothing and upset her daughter and her friends.

Hopefully the OP's dramatics don't backfire.

Sorry op, you have majorly cocked up here, I'm embarrassed for you.

I said that I wouldn’t have embarrassed her

Bloody hell it’s not like you caught them drinking and smoking. I’d have said ‘enough of the eye rolls girls, now here’s a mop’ and left them to it.

No, her mum brought the embarrassment by being a killjoy who can't handle a couple of 11 year olds eye-rolling, without sending them home.

I think most parents would be too worried about the OP's bizarre behaviour, to allow their kids to stay after this.

Only her daughter loses out.

Thats the only thing that would have stopped me asking! Mind you I plucked up the courage to ask DS if I could join him and his pals on Fortnite and was welcomed with open arms and still play with them all now and they are all 15+ 😊

What’s the problem with the game? It’s just a bit of water in the kitchen.

Would they be able to do stuff like baking or crafts that might make more of a mess?

Actually. My 8 year old went to his best friend’s house after school this week and his mum apologised for his top being a bit damp as they were playing this exact game in the kitchen. Of course it was fine- it was literally just water.

Oh no that’s a massive overreaction. I feel very sorry for your daughter if this is how you normally behave over a bit of silliness. She will be completely humiliated.
I would have just asked them to clean it up. Or left them until they were bored of the game and then got them to clean it up. It was only harmless fun. You didn’t catch them snorting lines off the counter tops

Why? What's wrong with the game?

Why is everyone saying “it’s just water”? It’s water that they’ve spat out. Revolting. We really are devolving as a species if people think this is funny.

Glad someone else said that 🤣I've played this with my kids,it's funny but I am naturally quite childish to be honest.

I might have asked them to move it to the bathroom,but mainly I'd just be relieved 3x 11 year old girls were getting on and having a laugh.3s a crowd and all that.

Def an overreaction IMO.I would have ignored the eye rolling,would no way have called the parents.Might not be in a rush to ask them back,but I also remember being a twat at 11.

You also run the risk of making your daughter very nervous of your reactions to fairly normal things.

That's not a nice way to grow up and won't help her turn into a confident young woman.

Are your DC those ones who were never allowed messy play or got into trouble for getting muddy after playing out?
Awful overreaction to some fun.

You’re too precious. It was just water and they were just having a laugh

No one is asking anyone to lick it up. Just use a mop or a towel and chuck it in the washing machine. Of course it’s funny to kids (and many adults).