I feel down about the hobby I took up

[TonightImGoingToPartyLikeIts2026]

I have name changed a few times on this site, and I have talked about my hobby before if you recognise some of this.

2 years ago I joined a local golf club and had lessons and joined a league. The reason why I did this was because I wanted to meet new people and do some exercise.

At first I loved it, and I was motivated to do it. Now it has turned into a nightmare. I met a few nice people, but now I am not so sure.

In the early days I was approached to help out with the admin and organising activities and this has turned into a nightmare for me. Fast forward to today and I am not actually doing the hobby because I have injured my shoulder, but I am spending hours and hours on the things that need to be done.

Before Christmas I was running round like a headless chicken for them, and asked for support but they were all too busy. I ended up organising the whole Christmas party (had to buy the food, organise venue, drinks and ended up serving all night) and didn't get to talk to anyone. I got a few thanks, and a lot of grumbles about preferring this and that. I also had to organise trophies, prizes etc. With my own life, job and other things going on in my life I felt really overwhelmed and I reached out twice for help and no one offered. They said they wanted to be at the party and enjoy themselves.

Unfortunately I agreed to carry on doing this until Oct 2026, when things were not so hectic.

I do have a couple more things to organise before the summer, but then I am quitting. What I have said to my DH is that I am not getting anything out of this golf, and in fact it feels like a 2nd job.

I am tired, stressed, and I no longer want to play golf because of it and feel I have not made any friends. It is also rife with politics.

I have a lovely DH, great DC and a couple of really good friends. I don't know why I feel like I need to go out and socialise more and why I feel lonely. As a family we go out loads together and are very close knit. I wish I could just take a pill and enjoy my own company when we are not doing anything.

Tell them you can’t do it any more and then don’t.

just quit now. You don’t owe them anything, they wouldn’t help you when you asked because they were too bloody selfish. Time to put yourself first not let them use you for another 10 months.

Then stop. They’re taking the piss and being totally disrespectful of you.
Leave the club and find another hobby.

Just stop now. It sounds like they are taking advantage and you are getting nothing out of it. You don't owe them anything.

Just quit now, I’ve been trying to get out of something for about 6 months and they’re just not listening to me, I’m going to be assertive though now as I do loads more volunteering so someone else can step up.

Don't feel bad about it. They shouldn't have overloaded a newbie with all this.
Perhaps you'll feel differently this time next year, when you can just play.
Having reached my 60s, I have learnt the value of saying no. The sky doesn't fall in if you do.

Blimey they saw you coming didn't they?

OP do NOT do this until November, I assume it's all voluntary, so just quit, say you can't do it anymore, today if possible.

Quit now - explain you are too stressed and you need to protect your mental health

and find a different club or a better hobby and learn the word no for next time !

You would be unreasonable to punish yourself with this shit show for months and months. They are taking advantage. Tell them you can no longer help and leave immediately. Find something else or another golf club. Life is too short.

I've worn that badge, too. In the end I said enough was enough, walked away and the club folded. I still feel guilty.

But, your wellbeing comes first.

Why would you? I can smell the burning martyr from here.

You owe them absolutely nothing-certainly not another 10 months of unpaid, unenjoyable labour! You'd be mad to carry on. Quit with immediate effect and leave the ungrateful fuckers to it.

Quit now, if you feel bad give 4 weeks notice but for the love of god don’t carry on until Oct 26! Madness!

Stop now. Things won't improve by the sound of it.

@TonightImGoingToPartyLikeIts2026 I say this with kindness but you must start standing up for yourself. These people are a disgrace; they are happy to enjoy all the events you organise but not spend any of their time in helping out. Your time is valuable too!! Stop wasting it on doing things for selfish and ungrateful people who are happy to take whilst you run yourself ragged.

Stop now. Do not allow these people to take advantage of you for a day longer.

This white spades on.
There's no special place in Heaven for martyrs

Please do it.Now.
I tried firing warning shots about leaving an organisation I'd been lumbered but it was too convenient to ignore my hints.Time dragged on, I received no further help or support and I became more and more resentful. One day I just said 'I'm done.Find someone else'.

Stop, say situation has changed I do not have the time any longer.

Are they paying you? No. You are being a complete mug, just stop.

This is the sort of thing that someone gets paid for out of membership fees - grow a backbone and stop helping them

I agree with everyone else...just quit.
You might have "agreed" to be around until October but it isn't a job so you won't have a contract. They can't make you do anything.
Just email them to let them know you are quitting the group and won't be attending anymore and that's that.

Fuck em. Quit and don't look back.

If you stay despite the way they treat you, that's on you.

Just quit. Why are you even bothering with this shit?

Quit now then. Why on earth are you letting them treat you like this any longer?