Little bit pissed off with ‘friends’ over Christmas

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I sent 2 friends a small Christmas gift each by post as live too far away to meet, one opened hers as soon as received and sent Whstsapp thankyou message, the other opened hers on Christmas Day and also sent WhatsApp thankyou message, neither sent me a Christmas card or anything… won’t be bothering next year.

I am totally confused, you don’t send cards because of cost, instead you give an unexpected cheap gift? What does Christmas become? I don’t think you are thinking rationally. Those gifts probably went straight in the charity bin.
Maybe next year you might feel a little more fulfilled if you consider doing some voluntary work for Crisis or perhaps going to church.

This is click bait right? You want to lose friends over a £6 gift they didn’t reciprocate? Priceless! You are luck to have any “friends” if this is the real you!

Yes completely concur with Sincere Soul 💚Manners cost nothing & just a mere thank you is common decency & bare minimum relational respect
I'm glad you self respectfully chose to not send again when they couldn't be bothered to say thank you 💚
God Bless You Sincere Soul
Wishing You&Yours all the utmost very best 💚🫂💚

You decided to send a gift as you hadn't met up as normal. I don't think you can really get upset that they didn't do the same, it probably wouldn't have crossed my mind to send a gift either.

I might have posted a card, but again, if the usual routine was to meet and exchange cards, then I am not sure I would have necessarily remembered to post it with all the other stuff going on.

I can see why you are annoyed, but I think it's unreasonable.

Also, surely it cost more to buy and send a £6 gift than it would have cost to send one Christmas card, so your reasoning for deciding to sending a gift doesn't make sense to me.

Agree about the Xmas cards. Stamps are just too damned expensive.

Yes it's such a shame regarding the cost of stamps now 💚

There was obviously a reason that you sent them the gifts. Are they no longer deserving cause they didnt buy you one back? I buy my friends gifts for verious reasons, i might give the gift to them on a birthday or Xmas but thats not the reason they have the gift. I obviously tell them what I appreciated they did or whatever but the gift isn't because I want a gift, it's for showing them something they did/said was meaningful to me.

Seriously? Over a £6 gift? 🤦‍♀️

Is there something else going on with the friendship that you’d drop them over that?

I absolutely detest having to post or return things. It takes a lot of effort to buy, wrap & stand in a long line of people to post something to someone. Especially at Christmas. Yabu to expect this of your friends,, sorry. Although I can see why you are disappointed. At least they thanked you anyway. Maybe you could all arrange a lunch date after Christmas instead of giving gifts?

I don't get how the price of postage for a card is too much but u bought 2 gifts at £6 each and i assume posted them?

You said yous don't usually exchange gifts so it was you that started the gift giving. I really don't see how you can be upset about this.

You said you were going to meet up for lunch next time you're in London but you are now in 2 minds about it. I think you are being dramatic. You are going to lose these friends over being petty.

How much was the postage on each of these gifts ?

surely more than the cost of a 2nd or even a 1st class stamp.

So you only give to receive ??

Better to plan a girls weekend than worry about Xmas gifts. I personally only buy presents for 12 and under. I asked my friends to let’s stop doing gifts, rather go to dinner and a show, something like that.