Page 9 | Talk me down, please. I'm mighty p'd off.

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 17:08

m00rfarm · 28/12/2025 13:31

Did not want to read the whole thing. I wanted to reply to the OP.

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You can read all of my replies by hitting the three dots on the upper right of my post. You'll get a list of options, one being to read all posts by *username.

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 17:13

mummybear35 · 28/12/2025 14:58

Would you feel different if it were your elderly frail parents? From someone who has lost both parents, I’d give anything for one more night with mine. Your husband probably knows his time with his parents are limited and is happy to stay. Maybe try to see things from his perspective and be kind and tolerant, if you can’t, then leave but I think it’s not a lot to ask to stay one more night. If you want to go home for a change of clothes, then go, half hour is hardly a trek, my school run was a half hour one way!

Try reading my posts. You don't have to read the whole thread.
My parents are also dead.
I do a hello of a lot supporting my husband and his parents.
He didn't want to stay, as previously agreed.
I am well aware how far a half hour drive is. It's from their house to mine.

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 17:14

Anonyymmmmm · 28/12/2025 15:17

I think if you’d already strictly agreed to 1 night because of how unbearable you find it, I think I would be a little peed off too but to be put on the spot I guess you’d feel rude saying you wanted to go home.
I wouldn’t say you’re being unreasonable but I also wouldn’t be really angry about it, it’s a tough situation - he could have made up another excuse as to why you both had to go back home if he knew you only wanted to stay 1 night.

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I wasn't really angry, just p'd off, and yes, he could have come up with some excuse!

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 17:15

MyDeftDuck · 28/12/2025 15:24

Please…….don’t ever use having no spare underwear as an excuse for not staying an extra night………the one time I used that it was met with an offer of a pair of knickers from the hostess 😱😱😱😱

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤮🤮 Ha ha, I wasn't going to risk that one!

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 17:17

Itsasecretnow · 28/12/2025 15:49

This always reminds me of that bit Sarah Millican did on one of her shows a few years back. How you can tell if you’re a risk taker or not due to how many pairs of pants you take with you [on holiday]! 😂 always makes me laugh because when I was younger (pre dc) I did use to see myself as a bit of a risk taker. However, the number of pairs of pants I take anywhere - even for one night - is frankly embarrassing. In fact - and this will really out me - I was taken into hospital once and had to quickly chuck some bits into a bag, it was a bag I always used for that kind of thing/cabin bag, and it rarely got emptied just added to. I was in hospital when they went through my bag to make an inventory(?) of what was in there, and the world could’ve opened up and swallowed me whole as they kept pulling out pant after pant after pant, counting each one as they went! Looked like a magician pulling bunting out of his sleeve. They were clean but I had no idea they were all still in there as I didn’t have time to check. I was in for two days/one night in the end and had 8 pairs of pants… 🫣

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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m00rfarm · 28/12/2025 17:17

DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 17:08

You can read all of my replies by hitting the three dots on the upper right of my post. You'll get a list of options, one being to read all posts by *username.

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I know. But I wanted to reply to your original post. I’m allowed to. BTW. You just click on “see all” at the bottom of the post. And I did. But I still wanted to reply to your original one as I was irritated by the title and content.

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 17:18

TeaCupTinsel · 28/12/2025 16:49

Just to add apologies! Currently on way home from family and not all the posts were loading so only just seen update. Glad you got home! Nothing better than your own bed!

Thank you! Hope you had a lovely night back in your own bed too 🛌😴

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 17:19

SparklingCrow · 28/12/2025 17:03

She did. She’s been home for ages.

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Thank you 🙏

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nevernotmaybe · 28/12/2025 17:24

SparklingCrow · 28/12/2025 17:03

She did. She’s been home for ages.

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You should read again. She didn't, and what she did later is irrelevant to what she did when the conversation and opportunity being discussed happened, what the comment I replied to said, the reply I gave to you about that comment, her attitude about the specific event in question (which is irrelevant to where she ended up), or learning in the future.

No time machine was involved.

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 17:31

nevernotmaybe · 28/12/2025 17:24

You should read again. She didn't, and what she did later is irrelevant to what she did when the conversation and opportunity being discussed happened, what the comment I replied to said, the reply I gave to you about that comment, her attitude about the specific event in question (which is irrelevant to where she ended up), or learning in the future.

No time machine was involved.

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Okey dokey, calm your pants down. I didn't at first, but I did after, it was relevant because I got what I wanted, and now I've been home for over 24 hours.

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LouBBB · 28/12/2025 19:33

You had a choice and you ducked it and pushed it back to him and gave him an impossible decision. He should be posting the AIBU, not you!

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 20:02

LouBBB · 28/12/2025 19:33

You had a choice and you ducked it and pushed it back to him and gave him an impossible decision. He should be posting the AIBU, not you!

🤣🤣🤣🤣 Seriously? He ducked first. Why are women expected to hold the hands of men and guide them through life?!

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PloddingAlong21 · 28/12/2025 20:21

Literally wouldn’t care if in the same situation and put on the spot and would say “no sorry got no pants and we are only 30 mins away so we can see you another day.” Nobody would dare have a comeback to no pants OP.

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 28/12/2025 20:26

PloddingAlong21 · 28/12/2025 20:21

Literally wouldn’t care if in the same situation and put on the spot and would say “no sorry got no pants and we are only 30 mins away so we can see you another day.” Nobody would dare have a comeback to no pants OP.

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The horror of a pair offered to borrow has been suggested 🤮

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Grammarninja · 28/12/2025 20:29

DoneWithThisShizzle · 26/12/2025 14:10

Yes, I think you're right, that's where some of the anger is.

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He put you on the spot and took advantage of the fact that you care about having a good relationship with his parents. He doesn't realise how lucky he is that you make the effort to get along with them and then pushes it.
My husband does the same kind of thing, it's beyond annoying and downright unfair.

Banannanana · 28/12/2025 22:29

Tbf he asked you and you didn’t say no.

But this is exactly the type of thing I’d do and be annoyed about (mostly annoyed at myself for not just making an excuse) so I get it.

Lesson learnt though OP, next time you know to say no yourself.

LBFseBrom · 29/12/2025 00:26

I don't get why you were asked on the phone when you were. presumably, in their house. Or have I got it wrong?

LBFseBrom · 29/12/2025 00:40

It doesn't matter now though, you're home. Well done!

Pherian · 29/12/2025 02:13

DoneWithThisShizzle · 26/12/2025 14:04

It was agreed with DH that we would only stay at his parents for one night, Christmas day. His parents are frail, FIL has diverticulitis so needs regular access to the bathroom, particularly in the morning. I love them, but they also drive me insane as they chat about all their symptoms while doing nothing to help themselves.

MIL has just offered us to stay another night and DH turned to me to ask me what I thought! He knows what I think but, holding in my fury, I passed it back to him. Mistake! We are now staying another night.

For context, we live 30 mins away and see them regularly.

To top it off, I don't have a change of underwear.

My AIBU is, whether I have a right to feel so annoyed?

This is where you say - it’s been so lovely to be here but I really must get back to my own bed. Then start packing. You don’t entertain this nonsense.

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 29/12/2025 07:07

LBFseBrom · 29/12/2025 00:26

I don't get why you were asked on the phone when you were. presumably, in their house. Or have I got it wrong?

Completely wrong. No mention of a phone at all ☺️

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 29/12/2025 07:08

LBFseBrom · 29/12/2025 00:40

It doesn't matter now though, you're home. Well done!

Thank you x

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ThatAgileRosePanda · 29/12/2025 10:20

Yes may be annoying, but family Christmas is not all about you is it?

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DoneWithThisShizzle · 29/12/2025 10:46

ThatAgileRosePanda · 29/12/2025 10:20

Yes may be annoying, but family Christmas is not all about you is it?

Yes it is! 😂

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thepariscrimefiles · 29/12/2025 12:08

mummybear35 · 28/12/2025 14:58

Would you feel different if it were your elderly frail parents? From someone who has lost both parents, I’d give anything for one more night with mine. Your husband probably knows his time with his parents are limited and is happy to stay. Maybe try to see things from his perspective and be kind and tolerant, if you can’t, then leave but I think it’s not a lot to ask to stay one more night. If you want to go home for a change of clothes, then go, half hour is hardly a trek, my school run was a half hour one way!

Guilt tripping the OP and using your dead parents to shame her is pretty horrible. Plus, I doubt that you would give anything for one more night with your parents. Would you give your own life? Your children's? Of course you wouldn't.

My parents are both dead, my mum when I was quite young and I was pretty traumatised. I don't use this to make other people feel bad or guilty. OP doesn't want to stay longer at her in-laws and I don't blame her.

NeedATreat · 29/12/2025 12:34

You were asked for your input and declined 🤷‍♀️