Talk me down, please. I'm mighty p'd off.

[DoneWithThisShizzle]

It was agreed with DH that we would only stay at his parents for one night, Christmas day. His parents are frail, FIL has diverticulitis so needs regular access to the bathroom, particularly in the morning. I love them, but they also drive me insane as they chat about all their symptoms while doing nothing to help themselves.

MIL has just offered us to stay another night and DH turned to me to ask me what I thought! He knows what I think but, holding in my fury, I passed it back to him. Mistake! We are now staying another night.

For context, we live 30 mins away and see them regularly.

To top it off, I don't have a change of underwear.

My AIBU is, whether I have a right to feel so annoyed?

Oh wow! That's too much! I would explode if I had to do what you're doing! Good luck getting through it. Sending you hugs xx

Read the updates dude

Yabu - you should have said “ ah that would be lovely but we can’t “

My (very wrong 😆) prediction was that you'd say you needed to go home because you didn't have enough clean undies, and your MIL would present you with a pair of hers for you to borrow 🙃

Hindsight is a wonderful thing 👍

Ha ha! 🤮

I know
im a slow thinker
apparently we make better decisions when we get there but would be useless as a politician

I'm late to the party,.but it's handy to have a friend willing to bail you out with a fake emergency 😂 IV done it more than once, very affective 😂

Ooh, I'll keep that ammo in my bag for next time 😉

Nip out for a couple of hours - in that time, you can go home and get some clean clothes as needed, plus make a voodoo effigy of your husband, and stick some pins in it 😄

Team husband 🙋

He gave you the chance to say you wanted to go home.

Can't help but feel sorry for all these aging parents that have clearly become such a burden to their adult children.

I hope your kids and their spouses treat you with more compassion when you get old.

And you wont die if you wear the same pants two days on the trot.

Sorry to sound harsh but you had your chance to speak up. You could have said you had no underwear or even that you simply wanted your own bed but thank them for the offer. It’s a bit harsh to be so angry at DH when you chose not to speak up

Go home. Rip DH a new one and let him stay there a third night also. In fact suggest he stays a third night to help them out in front of them and say sorry I can't I'm leaving shortly 😘

So you're completely useless at advocating for yourself with your parents too, then?

Also, read my various updates re living 30 minutes away, seeing them regularly, etc while you sit in your own self righteousness.

Ps we don't have children, unfortunately.

His backbone? What about yours? The refusal is easier on them coming from you rather than their son. You need to take some of the blame here. Poor husband.

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I am disappointed at how many responses here suggest that I should be treating my husband like a child (the poor man). He's an adult, who makes his own decisions (and yes, he does check in with me) and even he didn't want to stay over another night either (read my updates) because we're there often anyway 🖕

Thank you to everyone who did understand the situation and who treat grown men as adults. Your advice and humour is wonderful and very much appreciated 😘

The whole point you're spectacularly missing is that the OP was 'painted into a corner' in that moment and couldn't think of the words in your beautifully crafted post. The pressure of the moment caused her a degree of frustration.

do you really think she'd be on here now if your beautifully crafted words had sprung spontaneously from her lips.

um no, probably not!

Yabu. You should have said no instead of putting it back to him and now being in a huff about it.

Thank you. And to be fair, Nucleus isn't the only one who missed the point. But at least they refrained from berating me for not bailing out my "poor husband".

More fool you for not saying no, just go home and leave him there.

Damn me for being the default polite responder

If, out of politeness, you agree to do something you don't want to do, you don't get to complain about it afterwards.

You are right to be annoyed with yourself for not saying No thanks MIL I have berm planning to see my friend and anyway have no clean undies!

Indeed. Sorry it has been lovely, must get on etc.