Would you drop this friend

[ARunByFruiting]

Old work colleague but we've kept in touch. Went to her wedding evening do back in September, I got them a lovely afternoon tea with voucher with champagne that cost circa £100 which is alot for me as I'm not that well off. Put the envelope on the gift table at the reception.
After the reception I hadn't heard anything for over a week so messaged "lovely reception, hope you enjoy the afternoon tea". The reply i got was "Yeah we are looking forward to it, we will have to get your address to send a thank you card". Not heard a word since.
I know people are busy, I know especially after a wedding (to be fair theirs was very casual) that people have stuff to do. But not even a text to say thanks, I had to message them and then nothing since. Is this rude?

I'm starting to think it was too much now, I don't go to many weddings

You did a lovely thing. Some people are just a bit rude. I know similar people. It’s not really personal but it’s not great.

I dont think it was ‘too much’ just very generous. I think it was lovely of you. But it sounds like youre a better friend to her than she is to you. Was the main wedding quite small?

It was a registry office ceremony.

But were there not many people? Trying to work out why you weren’t invited to the main thing.

I guess are you happy to still have her friendship as it is?

I don't know how many were at the registery office but the reception in the evening was mainly his family.

Right so I think you're being unreasonable here because:

-You basically got to her first before she could pro-actively mention your gift, only a week after her wedding. You could have chosen to comment on how you'd enjoyed the reception without mentioning your present.
-She then says they're looking forward to it and she'll have to get your address to send a thank you card.
-You (inexplicably) neither give her your address nor tell her there's no need to send you a thank you card.
-Three months go by and you're miffed she's not asked for your address nor sent you a thank you.
-It's only been three months, the afternoon tea voucher is valid for a year, and I suspect she's been planning on sending you a thank you when they've used the voucher since she knows you know she has it safely.

Yes it would be nice if she sent you a thank you card, but you probably interrupted the process.

As for her party and you travelling on trains, I'm sorry but what you said is quite precious. It's irrelevant that you live 2 hours from London. So do many people who come into London. You said at first that you were "running around the tubes" and then you said that the "tubes were not working" (well clearly some were or you wouldn't have been running around them) and that your BIL had to help navigate you to St Pancras from East London. But East London to St Pancras is about 30 mins give or take, and there are tube workers and google maps and other apps to help you. Y

You say an issue was it was 11:30 but lots of (older) teenagers and young people use the tubes at that time of night quite safely. Your friend wasn't out of order for not checking that you were OK getting home.

A year's not long if you're busy. I would find an afternoon tea an effort to fit in. I'm sure many people love them, but the life admin around vouchers can be a complete pain. We used to get quite a lot of vouchers. We found some really awkward to spend, being specific to things we don't use or do as a priority. There can be expiry dates or fees to keep track of. You have to store them without losing them. A few simply ended up in the bin. An expiring voucher needs arrangements making to use it. The sort that have a bank card number can't be used in the same transaction with another card. You might have to draw cash out and travel to store to spend it. Often you can't get change if you underspend, so have to find clutter to add to the bill. I have two £100 vouchers which expire soon that will be a real mission to spend. I recently sifted a dozen restaurant vouchers. I gave away chains we don't use, threw out £60 of expired ones, and only managed to spend a couple.

Well you can send your vouchers to me if you like! I'll use them 😆