Aibu to feel annoyed in laws have invited friends over on Christmas day

[Indiaplain]

We are visiting my PiL for Christmas - they live abroad so this happens rarely. My MiL was delighted we are going. However she called DH today and casually mentioned they had also invited some friends over for Christmas Day.

Im feeling annoyed as it changes the whole dynamic. My teenage DC were not looking forward to it anyway (very long journey, not much to do there, very rural plus they are not close to the PiL) - neither was I but thought maybe a good opportunity for them to spend together, and was trying to think positively. Aibu to feel so annoyed about this?

They’re big drinkers as are most of their friends so now I’m thinking it’s going to turn into a big drunken session (MiL has brought a karaoke machine - my DC’s nightmare tbh!).

Geez and the assumption that Christmas is only for family is so limiting and rigid!

My Christmas wish this year is that next year we all have Christmas with people we actually like rather than the obligatory family. I much prefer my friends to most of my family anyway. They are the family I choose!

THIS!

Maybe it will make things better for your kids? More people to interact with?

Ooop I found the shitty grandma that puts boozing with her mates above spending precious time with her grandchildren who’re travelling from another country!

Don't be ridiculous plenty of posters have said the OP is being unreasonable snd controlling.

I don’t really care what other posters have said. There’s plenty of people also saying that it’s shit of the grandparent who hardly ever sees her grandchildren to not want to spend the day with them, especially as they are flying there to see her. If she can’t be arsed, why should they? Most of them don’t want to go anyway!

I’m sure they are not only going to be there for JUST Christmas Day. Christmas is a season (they are not going abroad for a few hours on a specific day!) and one day spent in the company of friends AND family does not make anyone a bad grandma.

A lot of the rhetoric about drinking, being drunk, ignoring the children has been presupposed based on the OPs fears and assumptions by other posters.

Quite.

Update please?🙏🏼

Has it occurred to anyone that the GPs are hoping to put the OP and the sullen teens off from ever coming for Christmas again?

How did it go, @Indiaplain ?