To think that some women care more about their careers than their families and that this isn’t always a good thing?

[ThatRedBeaker]

Not trying to start a war but I’ve noticed a growing trend where some women (not all!) seem to put their career above everything, including their partner or kids. Obviously, everyone has the right to pursue success but I do wonder if there’s a point where it becomes too much. Like… is it unreasonable to think that some people might be prioritising the wrong things?

Genuinely curious what others think.

It doesn't effect you so what difference does it make what other people choose to prioritise?

Do you worry some men do this too OP or is it just women that concern you?

Men are allowed to do it without other men making posts on the internet bitching about it.

Wonder why that is.

I think far more men do this than women.

Does it not affect society though? I think it probably does.

I don't know any women who are like this. I know women with successful careers, but I don't see them putting them above their families. They're usually doing their best to juggle everything

There has to be more behind this OP as it’s such a general statement that I can’t agree with it.

So get offline and back in the kitchen then 🙄

@ThatRedBeaker why is prioritising their career the “wrong thing”? And as other posters are asking is it wrong, in your opinion, for men to prioritise their career too?

Would you still feel the same way if you replace a "woman" on your statement with a "man". If no, that's your answer.

Is it equally concerning when men prioritise their careers?

No, I have not seen a growing trend for women to prioritise their career over their children. I have seen more women being clued up about their rights and understanding of the need for financial independence in case they split from their partner in the future. There does seem to be a trend for women to try and plan for a stable future for themselves and their children. Is that what you mean?

I can’t think of a single person I know who does. Most women are juggling, and feel enormous pressure and guilt, but have bills to pay. Having a career IS how they care for their families

Lots of things discussed on here don’t affect us personally, it’s a discussion forum.

Depends what you mean by prioritising. If you mean neglecting their children in favour of work, then you may have a point.
if you mean choosing a fulfilling career rather than being a stay at home mum, then you are incredibly unreasonable and misogynistic.

You don’t worry about this at all @ThatRedBeaker you just love a good auld bunfight. Just own up to it though, people will think far more of you for owning your attention seeking!!!! It is just a flaw we all have them. ;-)

Yes, men can and do prioritise their careers over family too. I focused on women here because there’s often an assumption that women’s career choices are always unquestionably positive or empowering, whereas men’s trade-offs are more openly criticised. Just wondering whether we sometimes struggle to talk honestly about the downsides on either side.

I can't say I've noticed this at all. Many women can quite rightly want to further themselves in their career and want an identity outside motherhood and their family. In fact it's wanting to give their children opportunities and a good lifestyle that can make women more determined to further in their career.

It's 2025, women are highly intelligent and highly educated and have skills that contribute massively to society and the workplace. You can still be a loving, present mother and work too. The two aren't mutually exclusive.

What's your views on dad's putting their careers before family because the posts I read on here seem to always centre on struggling mums who are left juggling everything while the dad is unavailable, working long hours with seemingly no option to reduce these or be flexible whereas woman always do.

Who have you got in mind? I see far more women working part time, taking the hit in terms of pay, pension and career progression, than I see putting their career before their family. And I can think of very few men whose careers have suffered because of their work.

You sound like you are hankering for the good old days when men's careers came first.

There’s a pile of Christmas presents, a holiday booked for next year and food in our fridge that can tell you why both my partner and I prioritise our careers.

Life isn’t free. People work for what they have. Women included.

How do you feel about my setup? I work full time, earn 3x my husband who works part time and has our child 2 days a week. Should I be less career focused? Is it OK if one parent is not or does it have to be mum?

What about single parents who naturally have to balance everything?

It's impossible to meaningfully respond to a post as vague as this. Where is your data coming from? How is the effect on these women's families being assessed and recorded? Are you actually just thinking about one or two people you know and extrapolating from that?

I agree op, I don't think it is good for children when both parents work long hours. I think one of each couple needs to put children before career, whether that's the man or woman matters less.

You can prioritise your career without neglecting your children
Regardless of whether or not you have a penis

Maybe men should quit their jobs and support their wives careers by taking care of the house and kids!