Not to have known his true age before sleeping together?

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He’s bloody 18! Not 19 until April

Casual conversation and flirting lead to hotel room and sex.

Really mortified to discover he is actually 18. No, he didn’t actually tell me. I assumed he was about 21. I am 28.

I feel so, so awful. Really panicked when I found out the morning after. He doesn’t seem bothered and thinks it’s all fine. Grinning like a Cheshire ca

Good lord, I haven’t scarred him for life, have I? Please someone assure me I’m not sick in the head

I would be furious if I was his mum!

At least he is legal! A male friend (him aged 26) met a female in a club, as in an over 18’s nightclub club where the bouncers should be checking id, and drunk they ended up at his, he finds out the next morning she’s 15! He was mortified, she got picked up by her dad (who seemed used to her antics) well my friend never had a one night stand ever again

Let’s get this right, you picked someone up for sex in a hotel bar and expected them to be 100% honest with you.

OK then 🙄 Good job he wasn’t 15.

I had to chuckle as were the same 😂

I disagree with those saying 18 year old boys look like 18 year old boys. Most of them do, but not all of them (I have a friend who’s always looked 30 from 16 through to 40) and it’s also about context (where she met him, what he was wearing, what sort of group he was with etc).

Assume there was some chat before they dove into bed, so he may have inferred things when talking eg working for a period of time.

Understand why you don’t want to make a repeat of it. But ultimately if it was consensual sex between two legal adults I don’t understand what all the fuss is about. Hopefully you both used protection!

Do you ask for ID before sex?

As long as Christmas is the only thing that came early.

Is your name Maggie?

Why would you be ashamed? Did you force him? Are you in a position of superiority over him?

if not I honestly don’t see the problem. He isn’t underage, he’s 2 years over in fact. It’s also not as if you’re 87. It’s 10 years difference.

just enjoy what you did. You seem to have had a great tone, and so did he. There isn’t enough joy in the world as it is, take it.

It's it's enthusiastically and wilfully consenting, both are adults! 18 year olds are not children, Christ we've just given 16 year olds the vote

Age of consent is 16 so as long as he wasn't 15 she'd still be legally in the clear.

He is an adult so I really wouldnt worry about it.

OP stop feeling guilty. You had adult, consensual sex and you're not the one responsible for him lying, that's on him.

And in the UK 17 would still have been fine (legally)

Gross. This is not okay.

So many boys of this age are suffering with their mental health. You put a smile on his face. Ask for ID next time a fresh faced youngster wants to frolic. Hope you used protection.

A sixth former at 28- yuk!

Don’t beat yourself up OP. It’s not a big deal. You had fun, he had fun. No harm done, now move on.

These comments are so dated, teens would be hiding this and probably feel gross about it.

Luke Littler is 18. He looks at least 35.

At 15 I thought I had a 17 year old boyfriend.. who had lied anout his age and was actually 14 🫤
He definitely looked 17 as well, he was 6 foot 2 and broad shouldered and had a deep voice.

Did you tell him your age?

I was thinking the same.. 17 is still legal 🤷‍♀️

This is so weird op. Most 18yr boys I've ever known through my dc look 16 . They never look older at that age ime.
Next time before shagging have a conversation and find out if they're at college or uni to give an indication of age.

Why?

Unless he's had a very hard paper round he would clearly look a lot younger than OP - certainly enough to put her on notice.