Not to have known his true age before sleeping together?

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He’s bloody 18! Not 19 until April

Casual conversation and flirting lead to hotel room and sex.

Really mortified to discover he is actually 18. No, he didn’t actually tell me. I assumed he was about 21. I am 28.

I feel so, so awful. Really panicked when I found out the morning after. He doesn’t seem bothered and thinks it’s all fine. Grinning like a Cheshire ca

Good lord, I haven’t scarred him for life, have I? Please someone assure me I’m not sick in the head

I would be furious if I was his mum!

This sort of happened to me once, I was 35, I was fresh out my marriage and had ONS with a guy who turned out to be 21. Told me he was 26 😂. It was fun. Don't sweat it

If he had been 17, it still wouldn't be illegal

17 is legal 🤔🤷

Oh Jenny don't be hasty!

Yikes, some of these replies! Yes, at 18 I slept with men who were 28. And at 14, I absolutely looked old enough to buy a drink in any pub (and I did, many times!) And I turned out absolutely fine,
He was a consenting adult op, don’t worry about it.

This seems fine to me. But then I'm in my 50s and both of you are mere (adult) babies as far as I'm concerned.

Now, if I was sleeping with him, THAT would be an ick.

If she consented and enjoyed it why would it be an issue?

Why? He's an adult. Not sure what difference four months until April would have made.

Oh don’t feel bad OP .
You thought he was older , I think all the younger lads & girls look older than what they are now, & you’re 28 not 38 ! Story could be a lot worse 🤷🏻‍♀️

Pathetic.

t'is no problem.

Older men with younger women do not seem a problem.

Older women with younger men are. Just misogenistic,

Mine is 20 years younger. Nobody cares. Not one of our friends.

18 year old boys very much much look like boys. There's a big difference between an 18 year old boy and a 21 year old man, there can be no mistaking it.

An almost 19 year old "18 year old boy" isn't a boy.
He is an adult.

Don’t be ashamed! He was clearly delighted and you didn’t do anything wrong. This is like that episode of Friends, “The One with the Ick factor”. You are his beautiful Courtney Cox.

My mum met my dad when she was 17 and he 27. 38 years later and they're still together.

I'm also late 20s and while I'd be a bit skeeved, I wouldn't bother feeling ashamed or guilty, just laugh at yourself and move on

I bet he thought Christmas had come early.

You have made a young man very happy op.

Gross. He'll be telling everyone.

17 would still have been legal.

This reminds of the storyline in Friends where Monica thought she was dating a college senior....He was a senior all right. In high school! So she thought he was 21 or 22 when he was in fact 17 or 18 - I believe he turned out to be 17. It was sort of funny, but not really.

Age of consent is 16, no? That being said, I don't know any 16, 17 or 18yo boy that doesn't look his age, so YABU to have assumed he was anywhere near 21!

Calm down!! Assuming you didnt tie him to the bed and ravish him (although some men would probably enjoy it)
You havent done anything wrong. I doubt many 18 year olds discuss their sex lives with their mothers, and if hes told his mates, he'll be hailed a hero for pulling a 28 year old 🤣🤣

It's fine!

Just chalk it up, you'll know to ask next time, and as he's well over the age of consent, no harm done

His mum has nowt to do with it, he is an adult and you aren't getting engaged

Honestly - it’s absolutely fine!

Exactly! No way you had no idea.

Why was it not really funny? Age of consent is 16?

You haven’t scarred him for life, you’ve done nothing wrong. It was a consensual ONS, not an arranged marriage. Take the compliment and move on.