Would you/have you secretly filmed at your child's Nativity?

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So our school has a policy that you aren't allowed to film/take photos at all, total blanket ban. They don't take photos or film themselves either.

My husband works away and never gets to see the plays so I secretly film them/take photos (just my child's part but there are others in the background) and I show the videos to him.

I don't put them on any social media or send them to anyone else, even Grandparents etc.

Aibu?

Yes, you are.

Yes YABVU

YABVVVU

This entitlement from people that there’s a rule but “it doesn’t apply to me”rule really grates on me!

You are massively unreasonable. DH also never attends school events (he's a teacher!). It's never even occurred to me to consider that this gives me a special pass to break school policy that is clearly stated and is for safeguarding reasons.

Also, I bet your DH is getting bugger all out of watching a covertly and so badly filmed video - and if you get caught you may not be allowed to attend future ones, and then neither of you will be able to go see your child's performance.

Meh, I couldn't get worked up about it if you're only showing your DH

No, just nooo!! There's a reason why they asked not to take pictures or videos.

How would you feel if you asked someone not to do something... and then they do it anyway?

Why though? Surely the reason is so it doesn't go on social media?

I mean you say you only show it to your husband
But peoole csnt help themselves,I dont believe for one minute you.are just showing it to your husband
There is a reason why schools have this ban.

Presumably the child hears the announcement at the beginning about not filming - and knows that their mum does it anyway. What do you think that suggests to them about school rules?

Why don't you ask the school why?

Why would I show anyone else? No one would be interested.

No because it's not just your child. Having known several at risk kids over the years you are putting them in danger even if no one but "immediate family" see them should you be hacked/lose your phone. A small risk but not one I would even contemplate.

My nieces are in their 30s and don't even remember me being at their nativities

It's so it doesn't go on social media.....

Why? Because you have been told not to. Its quite simple.

So why have yoy started this thread then ?
If you think you are in the right?

What are the chances of someone hacking/stealing my phone and then releasing that one specific video to the person who is a threat to another child?

YABU. Whilst you know you won’t share the video with anyone else other than your dh, other people might see you doing it and decide if you do it then so can they and they may not be as careful with sharing as you are. There are often very good and very serious reasons some children cannot be recorded.

Also, a parent of a child who cannot be recorded may see you doing it secretly and it could scare them to the point whereby they remove their child from future performances which is unfair on the child just so your dh can watch.

It may be worth speaking to the school and ask if they sell/give a recording of the performance (which means children’s faces can be blurred out) I know that what my dc old primary school did.

So tell them that you won't put it on social media and so ask whether you can therefore do it? They'll say no, obviously - what does that tell you?

It is a shame they don't give opportunity for photo in costume at the end, but
YABU.
You only share with DH.

Someone else will only share with family.

Someone else will share with their Mum's nice next door neighbour.

At our primary, someone's mum's nice next door neighbour turned out to be our adopted DC's birth grandmother!

(Luckily they realised from the names and kept quiet about knowing the DC).

Because I wanted to see if I'm the only one who does it and whether people think it's ok in specific circumstances.

You’re going to get roasted on here. But I would be tempted if the reason for the ban is so they sell “official” photographs at £50 each.

Everyone seems to think there's a reason why the rules shouldn't apply to them. It's for child safety, if your husband is so bothered he needs to book a single day off work.

You might do if you had a vulnerable child, Whose location was being protected.

And consent.

Very unreasonable OP. I can't believe that you are asking this.

Isn't there certain situations where you don't want to be filmed.